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Today's question is:
I'm maintaining a project and am lucky to have quite a few different helpful contributors who regularly assist. That said, there is one contributor in particular who can be extremely opinionated and a little bit difficult to work with. They've assisted me throughout and spent a lot of time on the project, so I want to respect the work they've put in, but I also think they feel a bit too much ownership and I've seen them down-talk other newer contributors. I'm trying to approach this diplomatically and would appreciate any advice!
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Top comments (4)
This looks like two problems. Talking down to new folks isn't okay and it's worth addressing directly (preferably in private if this is the first time). I'd look at it like a two-parter where you point out the issue and ask what's up to see if something is bugging them:
As for the ownership bit, addressing that is harder because the post doesn't have a ton of info and it might not be about a direct "incident", but this might be some inspiration:
Reminding them that there are other people with significant contributions can bring them back down to earth a bit. Your mileage may vary depending on the situation and individual, but hopefully those help with a starting point!
The way I do it :
How does that person's behaviour make you feel? π€
Are the person's opinions (not) valuable/ relevant for the project?
What exactly do you mean by down-talk? Is the person aware of that way of talking?
If you haven't already tried, ask yourself these questions. πΊ
By the way, nice post!
Active listening, progressing towards common ground on the gap and finally acknowledging their inputs..!!