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Emmanuel Idoko
Emmanuel Idoko

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Connecting Sucks...it shouldn't be so

Hey there,

I'm a 17-year-old but you can bet I've passed through a lot in life. I'm so happy that I even encouraged me to write this post.

From rejections to no replies to ...

There is just so much out there that leads to depression.

I'm learning to javascript presently and I do frontend web design.

From college rejections to not getting replies to not finding internships I can apply to, I've learnt to strengthen my emotions and keep pushing, but sometimes these feelings are just overwhelming and depressing.

I love connecting with people and most especially in the tech field it helps one to grow and I hear all about how to go about it, watch webinars on what to and what not to do and I'm super cautious in doing it right but then you just won't get accepted all the time(replies)...yeah people are busy and so I get it and I've trained myself to understand that but what hurts me the most is that some establish a relationship and we connect (do not spam them) but after some time they ghost you.

I think it's really unfair to do such. If you are busy an explanation would really make a difference but some people are not just into that after all. This is the point where twitter and all social media platforms where you can decide not to see if the person has read your message or not have made me happy.

Also, seniors in the industry(basically anyone not a beginner)- could also be juniors, should try to understand that we are beginners and if you think we're not doing it(communicating) the right way you should correct us rather than ghosting us.

Beginners also have a role to play. Many of us have not been the best we could have been and that's why a lot of this is happening. Please as a beginner there are tendencies to do things wrongly. Please try not to. Do your research, have a purpose before connecting!

Sincerely speaking, thinking about these things is really depressing. I give credit and appreciate all those who take time out of their busy schedule to assist others. They are real people and if you do otherwise please change today.

I hope we have a better tomorrow, starting with this.

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