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Nevertheless, Ali Coded

aspittel profile image Ali Spittel ・7 min read

Trigger Warning: graphic sexual content, racism, sexual harassment

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Nevertheless, Ali coded. And wrote about it online.

last year's version of this post

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Peter Kim Frank

These messages are infuriating, disgusting, and awful.

I admire your strength for pushing on and inspiring so many others despite this constant stream of harassment. 💜

Thank you for sharing the ugly truth about what it means to be a prominent woman in tech. It's an important (if not disturbing) wake-up call to anyone out there who refuses to recognize that this sort of awful harassment goes on every single day.

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Victoria Crawford

This was such a difficult thing to read as a woman who has dealt with sexual harassment as well.

What makes me really upset is the screenshots are from essentially every platform (Twitter, Gmail, LinkedIn, etc.). A woman isn't safe from a man's unwanted passes on anything nowadays. It's ridiculous and I'm sorry that you have to deal with this nonsense. I applaud you for being so strong and continuing to create amazing content for those of us who love hearing and learning from you despite all this unwanted attention year after year. You are an amazing person, Ali. Don't let anyone ever let you think otherwise.

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Ali Spittel Author

❤️

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Emma Bostian ✨

Love you for posting this!

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Ali Spittel Author

❤️

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Ridhwana Khan

Wow, I'm so sorry that all of this happened to you. These messages are appalling 😞 Nevertheless, you coded.... and you're doing amazingly!

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Ali Spittel Author

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Corey McCarty

Did I just witness a seizure stroke amidst erotic role play? All of this is terrible, but I can't get that one out of my head. Not only is it absolutely disgusting to send that unsolicited, but I'm seriously concerned for the brain that strung those words together.

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Ali Spittel Author

He sent a different version of the erotica to one of my close friends too, so bizarre.

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Corey McCarty

can we raise money to get all of these guys an intro to grammar book?

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Paula

more like an "intro to how to be a decent human being" book

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Michael Tharrington (he/him)

This is a seriously disappointing collection of disrespectful, demeaning, and downright gross comments. 😞

Thanks for bringing this up and sharing your experience!

People really need to be reminded about the reality of what it's all too frequently like to work in this industry as a female developer. Thanks for persevering through this hate.

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Jason C. McDonald

Ahh, the annual rogue's gallery of terrible comments. Thanks for posting this, as always. It's terrible that so many bigots exist...but at least you're able to turn them around and use them to educate the rest of the world that gender discrimination DOES exist today in tech.

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Jean-Michel Fayard 🇫🇷🇩🇪🇬🇧🇪🇸🇨🇴

Well well well.

If I was the author of one of those shameful messages, I would be really grateful that you took the time to blurry my name when you had the option to show my cowardice to the world. And I would contact you to say that I'm sorry and will try hard to not be stupid in the future.

And to the dudes working at Twitter, Reddit and other fake "social" platforms where this shit is endemic:

Hey guys, are you not embarassed to be part of this? What the fuck are you waiting for? Stop with the excuses. Voice your opinion internally until they do something. Or fire you. And then write about it.

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Vicki (she/her)

😭😩😡😡😢😢🤢🤮😡😭😭😭😢🤬🤬

Such an important thing to share. Why do people think this is okay?! I hope this will help show people this is a real thing that happens. I’m so sorry it happened at all.

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Andy Zhao (he/him)

Appreciate you sharing this ❤️

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Ali Spittel Author

❤️

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Yaser Al-Najjar

OMG!
The ugly side of humans... or non-humans 😶
I wish this never kills your motivation or (your why) to keep excelling.

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Cyd

It just goes on and on 😢

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Zubair Mohsin

More power to you Ali 🙌🏼💪🏻

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Xananax

Holy potatoes. As a cis dude, I hear about that stuff and read a few examples here and there, which are already puzzling/disgusting/worrisome, but seeing such a volume laid out is something else.

I don't know how I would deal with this without seizures. Kudos for the resilience and managing to keep some faith in humanity.

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Davin Davies

common decency seems to be missing in the world of social media. sry to hear you and other people have to put up with these kinds of messages.

I hope you continue being you and don't let these people get at you.

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Sean G. Wright

I appreciate you taking the time out of your day to continue putting yourself out there, helping others learn, and being a positive voice in the dev community!

All of this in spite of the garbage and harassment you have to deal with regularly.

Thank for sharing your experiences and thanks for what you do, Ali! 🙏🙏🙏👍👍👍💪💪💪

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Dhwanit Shah

I am so sorry you have to put up with this. Reading through these was infuriating and I'm just an outside observer. My wife was the most talented programmer I knew, but after working at three different companies where she repeatedly had to keep proving she was a damn good at what she did while also being a woman, she switched to a less male dominated industry. It is absolute bullshit that this still happena in 2020. You are far too kind to redact their names. Please keep up the good work, and don't let these socially inept chuckleheads get you down.

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Luke

Reading the entire thread of messages, 98% which are about unwarranted and extremely annoying sexual advances just left me shocked and disgusted at how low people can get. The other 2% which borders on doubting your knowledge/expertise, best exemplified by the guy who asked if you can explain OOP in Python well, is even worse because while the bulk of messages you receive are awkward sexual comments from sexual predators, a far larger number of people, have this unconscious bias of doubting women's ability and competence even when they aren't predators themselves which is really sad. But I'm most impressed by your resolve to keep going. If that huge gang of human degenerates can't break your spirit, definitely, nothing else can.

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Jeanine Hoffman

I have no words for how disgusting humans are and how glad I am that you are still here, coding, teaching, and inspiring. Keep up the great work and keep calling out trash humans!

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Katie Nelson

I’ve dealt with messages like yours recently on some coding chat sites. It usually scares them away when I reveal how old (or I should say young) I am. It’s the ones who keep at it after that which worries me.

Sounds like you can handle them well and I should take lessons from you.

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Robin Kretzschmar

Thank you for compiling this list again this year! Same as last year, I was amused at first, then I questioned the education of certain countries and then I got upset by the fact how demanding it must be as woman to get those kind of messages in this frequency.

Keep going and stay strong 💪🏾 😊

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David Makogon

These messages are brutal to read, one of them far more graphic than what is typically shared publicly. I can't even imagine reading them as the targeted recipient. Nobody deserves this.

Thank you for opening up and sharing.

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Andrew Wooldridge

Thank you for posting this. I can't imagine how horrible the ones are that you declined to add here. Don't let these folks discourage you! For every creepy creeper there are folks who also just want to build cool things using code and I hope you keep posting great content. I have a daughter who's trying to get into a tech related field as well and I cringe when I think about the kinds of things she will face as well. Seeing posts like this fighting back gives me hope for her as well.

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Charl Marais

Well done for keeping your head up in spite of such a disgusting deluge of awfulness. I certainly would have decided it is not worth it long ago, so it really speaks to the strength of your character. Keep making the tech industry better the way you are doing right now.

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Roger

I sincerely appreciate your decision to voice your experiences out.
It saddens me deeply to realize what women go through just for being in a certain profession. It is truly unfortunate for such events to happen. Such behavior stands as a manifestation of disgust and filth.

The lack of respect their actions display is a lot disturbing. Such people should be evicted from social media platforms. I think they've confused free speech with personal vandalism and disrespect. I truly long for a time in which legislative provisions are made in favor of protection of personal dignity on social media platforms.

I must again salute the courage you and other women going through similar experiences show on a daily basis. Thank you for bringing it to public knowledge. We, men can never understand what women go through everyday but your expression has really made us realize how far we have fallen as a society that personal objectification has now become free real estate.

I hope everything stops one day, I will be trying my best for that day to come soon.

Thank you Ali.

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Scott Sykora

Oh Ali, I can't hardly believe such poor attitudes exist. Thank you for putting up with such garbage and being an encouragement to the coding community. Thanks for the help you have been for me in getting started in coding this year after surviving cancer. I have a copy of your book here, and have been using it as a guide. All the best!

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Emmanuel Idoko

Reading this was sad and felt inhuman. I never really thought this happened or at least to this extent.

I hope you're in a better place now. Thanks for exposing me to this.

I don't know how but I hope I to assist the world in correcting some of these acts.

I admire your strength and courage.

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Gautam krishna R

Seriously!.... 🤦 All these morons really exist?... What a good time to be alive.... Anyway just ignoring them is the best thing you can do. TBH I had seen sveral messages like this even in my mom's account, she's less tech savy so i manage her account sometimes. I usually block these s**** h*****.

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Mustafa Anas

I ...
I am just sorry.
I had a discussion a year ago with friends about how women are strategically and intentionally abused and pushed away from the field by men. I agreed to some extent but I could never guess it is that bad.
I am really sorry for you.

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Lautaro Lobo

Damn, sick and scary af.

And nevertheless, she coded. You inspire many others to keep going, to keep writing, keep learning, even with all that shit, so thank you for that. ♥️