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How to Flirt with a Developer: Learn to Debug Your Love Life

Sukhpinder Singh on October 09, 2024

I’m writing this story not because I am single [💔] but because I am tired of solving bugs alone. For me, it is just a fun way to present...
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Valeria

I think humans are a little more complex than that 😅 I’ve met quite a few of developers and the vast majority had hobbies and interests outside of development. And I’m yet to meet one that enjoys debugging.
Some people I worked with over the years do like grand gestures and are romantic to the core, some aren’t interested in relationships at all and most are somewhere in between.
Most couples I know of have only one dev in them: they’re married or dating designers, musicians, architects (and not the software ones) and sales people or even product managers, so it wouldn’t be a stretch to assume that IT isn’t what brought them together.
And even in a scenario where both people are working in the exact same IT role, like yours truly and my partner, it wasn’t JavaScript that kicked off our relationship; we still have occasional holy wars over methodologies and certain tools.

And if you’re looking for a general approach, I think in the end of the day deep care and respect for each with a dash of shared values would take you a longer way than an IT pun. Show interest, ask how you can help, be yourself and try and see your love interest for all what they are.

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Kiran Randhawa • Edited

@valeriavg I couldn't agree more.

I would also add that whilst I see the intended humour in this article it does highlight a very real problem. The expectation on others of how they should accommodate me/us as opposed to putting in the time and effort to understand what drives the other person and what makes them happy.

This is perfectly encapsulates the world today and the simple reason why so many people aren't able to find happiness in their lives.

It's not just about love relationships either, it extends to our friendships and personal working relationships too. Self entitlement is a disgusting trait.

I don't even see this as a "young person's problem". I've witnessed it in people of all ages including those who have known better but seem to have forgotten.

I think that social media contributed to starting these trends by encouraging people to be self centred.

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Valeria

I like how you highlight the absence of time to put in effort into a relationship and draw parallels between different types of relationships.

While social networks might contribute negatively, I think they’re a symptom more than a source of all evil.

I wouldn’t know what causes the general unhappiness: it’s very individual. If I’m to generalise I’d bet on unmet needs and how much time and effort one needs to put into having a roof over their head and food in the table nowadays.

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Sukhpinder Singh

Well said.

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James

Sorry, I read you first line and shut down. Humans aren't more complicated than that. Lol.

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Valeria

It’s a pity you stopped there since the rest of my comment was the reasoning I had for that claim and we would’ve had a fruitful conversation where you’d provide yours, but alas :)

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James

All good. I did actually read it, just being a jack... :)

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Valeria

I see :) So what’s your reasoning for humans being not that complicated?

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Sukhpinder Singh

lol

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Sukhpinder Singh

I think we often overcomplicate things, but at our core, humans are driven by pretty simple motivations

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Valeria

So what drives me? What drives you? Is it the same thing?

 
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Sukhpinder Singh

You're right, it's unfortunate that we didn't get to exchange our thoughts fully!

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Sukhpinder Singh

No worries, I get it! Sometimes the first line says it all. 😄

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Andromeda

You are expecting too much from a chat gpt article 😅

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Sukhpinder Singh

Oo Really, i guess this screenshot is for you

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Sukhpinder Singh

feel free to "Copy Paste" and check

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Andromeda

Good to see that, my bad, the cheesy pickup lines made me think that it was written by an AI.

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Sukhpinder Singh

Pickup lines were indeed from pintrest

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Shafayet Hossain

Your humor and tech references make flirting with developers sound like a fun puzzle. The geeky compliments are spot on! Maybe, I should try ones😅😅

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Sukhpinder Singh

Thanks a lot, let me know how well did it go

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Sukhpinder Singh

Finally my motivation to write more

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Suryan S

Ah this just made my day!!!!

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Sukhpinder Singh

I'm glad

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koo lam

def have to try these out

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Sukhpinder Singh

Sure, i would keen to know how it went

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Punith Gowda

Oh hi

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Sukhpinder Singh

hey

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Punith Gowda

Hello

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venkat reddy

👏 very good thought 😃

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Sukhpinder Singh

Thanks

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Brian Sikute, CLA

Wow!!!! On point!!

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Sukhpinder Singh

High five

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Gad Iradufasha

Thanks for sharing you made my kotlin + vue.js project easier I was stuck losing hope but you brought back my motivations
Hey!!!

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Sukhpinder Singh

I'm glad you're motivated.

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Algo7

This is such a unique post. Absolutely love it!

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Sukhpinder Singh

Thanks a lot, part 2 coming soon

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ONI OLUSEGUN ADEBAYO

Great 👍

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Sukhpinder Singh

Thank you

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Sufian mustafa

Wow, this was such a fun read! Thanks for giving us a reason to laugh and smile today.😅😅

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Sukhpinder Singh

You're welcome, keep reading

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CatalinRadoi

I've never seen so many memes in one place.

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Mayank Chawdhari

Good one

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Sukhpinder Singh

Thanks a lot

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Adeyeye Ayomide Timothy

Okay this is dope. I enjoyed reading this.

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Sukhpinder Singh

Thanks a lot for your comment, keep reading

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cumulus13

🤣

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Jerount

The headline is fire! 😂

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Sukhpinder Singh

Thanks

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Nick Huson

“We’ve been in beta for a while. Do you think we’re ready to push this relationship to production?”

Well, that's a unique way to inquire about having babies.

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Sukhpinder Singh

lol :D

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Bello Adeyinka Toha

Quite a long post but quite insightful

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Sukhpinder Singh

Thanks a lot

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Sahir Khan

Your article is a compile-time error fix for my day! Laughed so hard I almost crashed my IDE. Keep the humor in the repository!

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Sukhpinder Singh

Thanks a lot for ur comment

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Juansecu

Hahaha, this has made my day! It is really fun, and some things you mention may be true for haunting some developers hearts.

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Sukhpinder Singh

Thanks a lot for kind comment, part2 coming soon

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Ranjan Kumar

This is cringgggyyy