[Off Topic] Should a developer marry another developer? What are the chances?

The next Friday I will marry with a developer.

I explain her Design Patterns, OOP, dependency injection and synchronization problems.
She explains me Curryfication, Monads, Express and Webpack.

Its really fun to share the subjects that we love :).

No, you shouldn't marry ever. To get married is to import a heck load of dependencies into your life that could break at any moment.

I once met a woman through a dating site – she was a Rails developer and I was an Oracle data warehouse architect-turned-manager and hating it.

Now we're married and working together.

I have no complaints.

I didn't marry a dev, but neither did my wife. She married a pre-law student. I married a high school physics teacher. Now I'm a full-time dev, and she's still a physics teacher but she's pretty handy with Mathematica, LaTeX and MyOpenMath, where she codes quizzes for her students to take.

We don't talk about code a lot. Part of it is that we know totally different programming languages. But there's so much more to us than what we do at work. I honestly don't think there's anything less important in a marriage than whether you have the same career path. I married my best friend and for all I care she could be a deep sea diver.

On the one hand, I think it would be nice to be able to talk about interesting dev topics / experiences. But on the other hand, what if you disagree about fundamentals like tabs vs spaces? 🔥🔥🔥

It could also be really disappointing when one of you is super interested in dev and the other just does it for a job and isn't really interested in talking about it outside of work. In this case, it may not be much different from marrying a non-dev.

Then what if you are both focused devs and you start to become competitive with one another. I guess some people thrive on that, too.

At the end of the day, like any other marriage, it depends on two people willing to stick together and work things out.

Edit: I don't mean to imply that dev-to-dev marriages are destined for trouble. The ideal scenario is that it works out just right, and you have a deeper level of sharing with them than you would otherwise. But the above is just to point out that marrying a dev doesn't guarantee that.

Dev elopers share a private connection.

"HTTPS: I love you."

"With this string, I thee web."

I'm done.

Pairing at its finest :)

One dev/dev couple I know of where I work, they work in different departments but take lunch together and have been doing that successfully for 35 years :)

This answer will vary for every relationship and each person. I've seen couples throughout tech who are both devs so it is possible. But it is ok if people don't marry devs. Developers marrying another a developer are just like every relationship. Both people need to put in the work and effort to make it work.

I've never been married, but I began learning how to code when I was in a relationship. I learned from that relationship that I don't care if my future partner is a developer or not. What I do care about is if he's supportive of my career and understanding of what life for a dev is like.

According to Stackoverflow demographics the percent ratio between male and female devs is like 97 to 3. According to Alfred Kinsey 10% of the world male population is gay(ish). According to me, you shouldn't marry, period.

Myself and my partner are both Devs. Iv been doing it quite a lot longer than her but we work in different stacks. It's great to be able to talk about the ups and downs of work and know the other understands, while neither being an expert in the others technologies means we are unable to critisise each other. Works very well for us.

I am marrying my developer partner in less than 2 weeks! We really enjoy both understanding the struggles and pain points of being developers. Plus we code together which is super fun! We have complementary tech stacks but not the EXACT same which means we both learn from each other! Plus, networking is alway more fun with a partner!

It is possible!

Through my career, I think I have met 3 developer couples. They seem to make it work somehow. :)

Yes, It will be amazing.If a developer marries another developer ,he/she will have following advantages:
1.Freedom to give long hours on your passion:Being from the same profession your partner understands how much dedication it needs to be in this field..So he/she will never question you spending long hours working on your passion.
2.Helping Hand:Your partner can become your helping hand during project deadline ;)

3.Learning Companion:A Developer is always interested in learning new technologies,and that too becomes more interesting when you have a good learning companion with u.
4.Competitor who motivates: Developers love challenges.You can take part in coding competitions/hackathons together,and can cherish that lovely moments too.You can enjoy the success moments of each other.
5.Productive Discussions:Instead of wasting time on gossips you can do productive discussions on new ideas/technologies/topics that you love to discuss.
6.Listener & Problem Solver:Being from same profession your partner understands the positive/negative sides of your job.Your partner can become a good listener for you as he/she can relate with that stuffs and also he/she can help you to solve that problem from his/her experiences in the same field.
7.Help to grow:Your can help each other in career growth and improving each others skill if someone is lacking somethng, personally & professionally.
8.Coding Nights:Imagine the idea of staying awake whole night and code together :)

this all seems exciting to a developer but what matters the most is.. Do you love that person whom you gonna marry?If answer is yes,then go for it..Simple

Dev:Dev have the same chance of success as everyone else.