[Off Topic] Should a developer marry another developer? What are the chances?

The next Friday I will marry with a developer.

I explain her Design Patterns, OOP, dependency injection and synchronization problems.
She explains me Curryfication, Monads, Express and Webpack.

Its really fun to share the subjects that we love :).

No, you shouldn't marry ever. To get married is to import a heck load of dependencies into your life that could break at any moment.

I once met a woman through a dating site – she was a Rails developer and I was an Oracle data warehouse architect-turned-manager and hating it.

Now we're married and working together.

I have no complaints.

I didn't marry a dev, but neither did my wife. She married a pre-law student. I married a high school physics teacher. Now I'm a full-time dev, and she's still a physics teacher but she's pretty handy with Mathematica, LaTeX and MyOpenMath, where she codes quizzes for her students to take.

We don't talk about code a lot. Part of it is that we know totally different programming languages. But there's so much more to us than what we do at work. I honestly don't think there's anything less important in a marriage than whether you have the same career path. I married my best friend and for all I care she could be a deep sea diver.

On the one hand, I think it would be nice to be able to talk about interesting dev topics / experiences. But on the other hand, what if you disagree about fundamentals like tabs vs spaces? 🔥🔥🔥

It could also be really disappointing when one of you is super interested in dev and the other just does it for a job and isn't really interested in talking about it outside of work. In this case, it may not be much different from marrying a non-dev.

Then what if you are both focused devs and you start to become competitive with one another. I guess some people thrive on that, too.

At the end of the day, like any other marriage, it depends on two people willing to stick together and work things out.

Edit: I don't mean to imply that dev-to-dev marriages are destined for trouble. The ideal scenario is that it works out just right, and you have a deeper level of sharing with them than you would otherwise. But the above is just to point out that marrying a dev doesn't guarantee that.

Dev elopers share a private connection.

"HTTPS: I love you."

"With this string, I thee web."

I'm done.

Pairing at its finest :)

One dev/dev couple I know of where I work, they work in different departments but take lunch together and have been doing that successfully for 35 years :)

This answer will vary for every relationship and each person. I've seen couples throughout tech who are both devs so it is possible. But it is ok if people don't marry devs. Developers marrying another a developer are just like every relationship. Both people need to put in the work and effort to make it work.

I've never been married, but I began learning how to code when I was in a relationship. I learned from that relationship that I don't care if my future partner is a developer or not. What I do care about is if he's supportive of my career and understanding of what life for a dev is like.

According to Stackoverflow demographics the percent ratio between male and female devs is like 97 to 3. According to Alfred Kinsey 10% of the world male population is gay(ish). According to me, you shouldn't marry, period.