It’s effortless to compare one’s self to others. I struggled with it in the past and continuously had to remind myself that my day/life cannot measure up to someone else’s day or life.
During one of the online courses I have taken, there was a discussion about the social comparison theory.
The theory states that we determine our own social and personal worth based on how we stack up against others we perceive as somehow faring better or worse. It can be useful if we compare ourselves to others as a way of fostering self-improvement and motivation if we have a positive image of the self. However, because we are continually evaluating ourselves and others, these evaluations can also promote judgmental, biased, competitive, or superior attitudes.
In fact, some researches have shown that people who often compare themselves to others report negative feelings of deep dissatisfaction, envy, guilt, and remorse, which means that by comparing yourself with others you can ruin your self-esteem!
And comparing yourself with other influencers, for example, on Twitter or Instagram might make you believe that they are leading perfect lives. In reality, people rarely share their hard days on social media.
I hope this mini-post can ignite a discussion in the comments, as I would love to hear your thoughts on self-comparison.
Have you compared yourself to the people you follow on social media? Do you think they have a better life than you? Why?
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