Are you your own worst enemy? I know I can be more than often.
I spent the whole weekend working to keep up to date on my work load. Mind you, we have two kids. This last month has been crazy because we just finally adopted my daughter, then we took placement of our current son who's 3. We foster.
Here we are trying to balance a new family schedule to make things work, and I'm stuck working to try and keep up with the insane amount of work that we agreed on this iteration.
So I worked all weekend on it every minute that I could break away from the family. I don't like ditching my family.
I come in today and during standup they ask how I'm doing. Well I tell them about how I spent all weekend working to make sure we can try and keep up with our workload.
Not a single blink of an eye. No thanks, no great job. Nothing.
So why did I even bother to work all weekend?
Because I am my own worst enemy. Stressing myself out over a work load and fear of getting in trouble if I don't get it done. Well I work on a team of two.
My coworker is out Monday and Tuesday this week so I feel like it's all on me to finish. But why? I did my fair share and we are still behind. I verbalized my fears of us taking on to much work at the beginning of the iteration.
Yet I took it upon myself to feel all the responsibility for it. No one asked me too. My coworker never yelled at me. Never told me he felt like he was doing all the work.
He's our team lead so it's in position to take the fallback if we don't meet our work. Perhaps I felt like i wanted to protect him? Us?
Either way, I lost out on time with my family just to get no thanks. No more. I keep saying it.
NO MORE WORKING OUTSIDE OF WORK HOURS! Yet, I'm sure next week I'll be doing the same thing. I'm my own worst enemy.
how many of you do the same? or use to? how did you over come it?