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3.6. Obsessive Love: An intense, sometimes unhealthy form of love that can lead to possessiveness and jealousy.

Navigating Obsessive Love: A Reflection on Possessiveness and Trust

In the tapestry of relationships, a peculiar thread weaves its way - obsessive love. This intricate emotion, while often masked as affection, can manifest in ways that border on possessiveness and jealousy.

Consider the couples around you, perhaps even your own relationship. In the midst of what may seem like a harmonious existence, there lurks a question - Is the love pure, or does it harbour elements of possessiveness and control?

In the everyday course of relationships, subtle restrictions can emerge. Whether it's curbing interactions with the opposite gender, limiting friendships, or creating boundaries, possessiveness often takes center stage. While a degree of possessiveness may be deemed normal, its excessive manifestation can lead to a toxic environment. It's crucial to introspect—do these restrictions stem from genuine concern or from a fear of losing the other person's affection?

True love transcends possessiveness; it perceives the partner as an extension of oneself. It views the happiness of the loved one as paramount, regardless of whether that person belongs exclusively to the lover. The purity of love lies in forgetting the external world and seeing the partner as an integral part of one's own soul.

The concept of possessiveness arises when individuals struggle with the fear of losing their beloved to someone else. But here lies the paradox—true love doesn't demand ownership. It rejoices in the joy of the loved one, even if that joy comes from sources beyond the relationship. True love is selfless; it doesn't seek to control or restrict.

Failing to make someone exclusively 'yours' should not be perceived as a personal failure. Instead, it can be celebrated as a testament to the beauty of unselfish love. The ability to find happiness in the well-being of the other, irrespective of their relationship status, is a mark of profound love.

Trust becomes the cornerstone of healthy relationships. Blind trust might be precarious, but belief in the natural course of life, guided by karma, can foster a secure and nurturing environment. Imposing restrictions, on the other hand, often triggers curiosity, leading to actions driven by rebellion.

In the intricate dance of relationships, let us remember that our behaviour shapes our destiny. Rather than succumbing to possessiveness, let us choose the path of trust, understanding that our actions will inevitably shape the course of our relationships. After all, in the grand scheme of karma, what we give is what we receive.

So, in the labyrinth of love, let us strive for the purity that transcends possessiveness and embraces the true essence of selfless affection.

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