Connecting with fellow developers gives us a sense of inclusion, connection, interaction, safety, and community. Your vibe attracts your tribe, so if you want to attract positive and healthy relationships, be one! Staying connected and getting reconnected feeds the flow of goodness which empowers our humanity.
There is a depth to tech career which only comes from our connection to other developers. However, we have to find it without becoming a prisoner.
There is a bond..... Among all of us(developers). But it is hidden.
Hidden like water in the clouds. You need to hit rock bottom to discover it.
But one thing you need to keep in mind while growing as a developer:
Making a strong connection with fellow Dev is never easy.
It is even more difficult to connect with a Dev who is very different from you.
Research has also identified a range of activities that qualify as social support, from offers of help or advice to expressions of affection.
In addition, evidence suggests that the life-enhancing effects of social support extend to givers as well as to receivers.
Having a network of important professional relationships with social support can also make a difference in your growth as a developer in the long run.
Well, here, I’ll be discussing a couple of most significant signs that tell whether you or your fellow Dev have a genuine professional connection.
A genuine professional connection brings more than you can imagine. It brings a lot of learning to the table, as you and fellow developers won’t be afraid to show off your bad coding habits.
Whatever it is, displaying it won’t be a problem, because the developer you’re sharing all this weirdness with will never judge you & offer help instead. It’s a win-win for both of you.
You both will learn something from each other & grow together.
When you don’t like something about your fellow developer, you won’t feel reluctant to speak about it.
That’s the most important thing – to feel confident that your remarks will bring a positive change and that the effort is worth it.
Even if your fellow developer doesn’t take it very well, it’s the right thing to do. For both of you to grow as a team member.
Two team members do not always agree with everything. But when it comes to the most important features to ship in production, values as a team member, goals, basic programming beliefs, and priorities, they are on the same side.
Moreover, whenever you’ll encounter a tough situation, your fellow developer is usually there to help.
Professional relationships often break up when two people try to change each other.
One of the biggest factors that contribute to so many bloated egos, is the lack of respect.
You never insult, lie, or cheat. You don’t feel the need to do such things because you know they won’t bring any good to the relationship. A professional connection is strong when both devs keep mutual respect.
At last, a professional connection is too complex to be labeled as black or white, small or big, fair or not fair.
There are lots of complexities and variations, but at the same time, it’s all linked to you.
It’s about who you are and what you want.
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- Ankur Tyagi
Your Mentor, Coach.
Creator of CLF and WETESTERR