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Discussion on: How to Boost Emotional Intelligence to Become a Better Leader

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Scott Simontis

I would add humility as a key value. Never forgot who you are or where you came from. Be the first to admit you are wrong, and "let me get back to you on that" is always a better answer than bullshitting people.

When we are called to lead, we are not infallible human beings. We still have our fears, insecurities, doubts, and knowledge gaps. Defer and delegate to those who know better than you on certain subjects. Find a mentor who can help you with your weaknesses. Lead by example, not by fear, ritual or hierarchy.

You hit on a brilliant key point, motivation. Understand what motivates those around you and help them find opportunities to harness that motivation. It isn't an easy or instant thing. My managers ask me for three things I would like to expand upon so that they have ample opportunity to place me on projects where I can grow, even if it isn't my #1 thing. I think that was a genius move on their part, for me and them.

I struggle with egotism, so management can be quite hard for me. When called to lead, I have to remember to lead as a servant and not a dictator, or else I will not be a leader for long.