Yes, this has been a huge challenge for me my entire life. I was not taught to love myself as a child. I hit puberty late and was obese for a few years and my parents wouldn't let a day go by without reminding me that I needed to lose weight and eat better. I was just eating what my parents bought for the family, so I didn't understand what I was doing wrong. I don't want to turn this into a therapy session but that is really indicative of the household I grew up in, where nothing was ever good enough and that B should have been an A and it was my responsibility if my brother wasn't doing well in school...
15 years later and I can still remember that stuff like it was yesterday. At least when I become a parent I will know everything that I shouldn't do to teach my kids that they're good enough as is. That's how I had to learn management as well, I observed all the ways supervisors destroyed team moralw and to treat team members llike human beings instead of machines. It's sad that there are managers in this day and age who need to be reminded of that...I really hope I have just ended up at a lot of toxic workplaces and these aren't industry norms.
A little respect can go a long way. You never know what someone else is going through and it's amazing what a difference you can make in someone's life changing someone's tire or buying a homeless person a meal. I don't have grand ambitions in life; it's moments like those which give my life meaning.
Well if you ever need an boost of appreciation or motivation, feel free to add me as a friend. I'm sorry you had to deal with that in your life. You're a great person, you're past does not define you nor does family/blood. You can be who you want, you just have to believe it and be that person every day.
Thank you! This site truly is a community; it feels like a family of developers. So many developer sites are full of people who seem to have no interests whatsoever besides nitpicking insignificant points and shouting at people to RTFM, or downvoting anyone who disagrees with them into oblivion, that I stop visiting and become very discouraged about the products represented by the community. I love how uplifting and caring this community is. It's been a tough few weeks/months and this community has always been there for me.
I agree, a lot of sites are super negative. I had one of my post blow up and go across the net. I was shocked to see how different it was from site to site. Here is was nothing but positive. On hacker news, it was me being a cry baby.
Hit me up next time you're feeling down or just want to talk.
Appreciate it! And I extend the same invitation to you, or anyone else who may be reading!
Thank you Scott! I hope you have a great week!
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