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Scott Simontis

You will sometimes hear people say things like "time heals all wounds" and I have found this to be the opposite in reality. Wounds heal in time when they are properly addressed, which in my case meant finding a therapist to help me process some of my burnout at work and spending a lot of time reflecting on what I need for a job to feel morally and ethically comfortable for myself.

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Ryan Latta

I'm glad you were able to get that help. Too many of us deny the hurt far too long and it causes serious issues.

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Scott Simontis

I was a first responder (EMT) before I was a developer, and we didn't really speak about mental health at all. You became acutely aware of how significant it was, as some of my coworkers were cynical beyond belief. Some of them are no longer here with us today, unfortunately. I've seen some incredible talks on mental health in the dev community, but I feel like we have a lot more work to do because I suspect we've lost some amazing human beings in this field because they didn't know how to get help when they were really struggling.

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Ryan Latta

Thats interesting. I did Ocean Rescue and we had regular debriefs after serious incidents because of how serious the trauma would be on us.

And yes, I agree, we're still just starting to accept the importance and de-stigmatize mental health. My hope is that devs realize they almost always have options in their career and that can provide relief when we need it most.