There is an e-mail from the Daily Stoic I go back to read frequently. I try to go back to it every time someone irritates me - so quite frequently....
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People have a tendency to project, and the cause of their irritation is actualy one of their own character traits. This is not always the case but it's quite frequent. There's also another phenomenon or a pattern of behaviour, when people feel the need to justify their every action and will always find a good excuse for just about anything. Psychology is an amazing science and it's really funny how certain patterns are so frequent, yet remaim completely unnoticed.
I'm happy that these thoughts inspired you. It's something quite difficult sometimes for me too at home - to think about the other perspectives. But none of us is perfect, and we try to get better, that's the point.
I was in a Starbucks the other day* and liked the song they were playing, so I Shazamed it. Then I noticed how beautiful a painting on the wall was. Then I liked the next several songs.
Then I asked myself, what's going on? I don't care about art. But apparently that day I was in an unusually good mood and my appreciation for everything around me was dialed up.
Unrelated: I read that some psychopaths (emphasis on not making a blanket statement) find fear annoying in others, because they can't relate to it.
That blew my mind a little bit. How many times does someone annoy me, and the reason is just something they experience that I can't relate to?
*I don't want to make myself sound like someone who hangs out at Starbucks. I don't know why. It's okay to hang out at Starbucks. But I don't.
I wish more people had an ounce of the stoic mindset. :/
I couldn't agree more. Software development is not only about code but also about people. How wonderful/interesting is that statement