DEV Community

Cover image for I will always support you! Share my experience of being sexually assaulted.

I will always support you! Share my experience of being sexually assaulted.

Rhaenyra on March 19, 2024

‼️trigger warning: This article contains images of sexist assaults. I was sexually assaulted by trolls on the Taiwain's Internet. Since I am a sel...
Collapse
 
cbid2 profile image
Christine Belzie

Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your story with us @rhaenyraliang. It’s unfortunate that you endured such disrespect and glad to see that there people were who defended you on your behalf! :)

That being said, can you put a warning like this at the beginning of your post(e.g., ‼️trigger warning: sh)? It’ll give users who have endured similar experiences the option to scroll & not feel uncomfortable.

Collapse
 
rhaenyraliang profile image
Rhaenyra

Thank you @cbid2 ! I'll make the changes and be more mindful in the future!😊

Collapse
 
michaeltharrington profile image
Michael Tharrington • Edited

First off, you rock, Rhaenya! 🙌

Really appreciate you sharing this sensitive story with us and I'm sorry to hear about all the abuse you faced just for sharing your experiences and being yourself.

Sadly, this is a familiar story. I know women in the tech space (and just women online, in general) face sexual and sexist abuse regularly. I appreciate you writing this post and amplifying your experience. I know it's probably painful to relive but I also think the way that you've recollected things to us, just proves your strength and reveals their weakness.

And on the positive side, I am really glad to hear that others have been supportive of you and are helping to counteract that negativity you experienced with kind and welcoming words. We need more of that in the world!

Anyway, really appreciate ya being part of our community and thanks again for sharing your experience!

Collapse
 
rhaenyraliang profile image
Rhaenyra • Edited

Thank you for reading this article!🤘

Because of this community, I can move forward. The community has given me a lot of strength. I also want to contribute, just like you!

I will keep going!

Collapse
 
thomasbnt profile image
Thomas Bnt

Owwww when I see this kind of behavior, it's so infuriating at times!
Thanks for your post, It takes courage to put yourself forward on the Internet. And dealing with harassment, taking up this "challenge" and getting over this kind of behavior, is a great battle! 👏

Congratulations to you, and leave those kind of beasts aside, you're better than them! 👏🥊

Collapse
 
rhaenyraliang profile image
Rhaenyra

Thank you for reading this article!

I will keep going. Taking this courage to embrace everyone who encounters difficulties along this path.

I will keep fighting!🥊

Collapse
 
nigel447 profile image
nigel447 • Edited

Public bullying someone based on gender is reprehensible, unjust, unethical, amoral and an act of cowardice.

Collapse
 
rhaenyraliang profile image
Rhaenyra

Thank you for reading this article!
Yes ,often the people who leave these messages are anonymous.

Collapse
 
phalkmin profile image
Paulo Henrique

Sorry to hear about this. Being a self-taught dev, and growing up in a poor family, there are some points where I can relate, but it's really hard to even think about how you must felt with those comments.

But your text shows you have the passion, the resolution, and the strength to keep going. And that's what you need to do. Be the Ada Lovelace of your generation, or your country, or even your city, it doesn't matter how big or how small you can influence other people, but keep doing this. With some luck, in the future a new self-taught girl will just say that she wants to be like you

Image description

Collapse
 
phalkmin profile image
Paulo Henrique

meh, the nice gif didn't load :(

tenor.com/view/go-gobeyond-beyond-...

Collapse
 
rhaenyraliang profile image
Rhaenyra

Thank you for reading this article!
I will keep going !
Thank you for your encouragement, you give me a lot of strength.
I will continue to learn, share, and most importantly, embrace more people with this courage.

Image

Collapse
 
thaisavieira profile image
Thaísa Vieira

Oh, dear... Thanks for sharing your story, you're so brave! As a woman, who studied Physics and CS, I do recognize such things in my life too. We are going to support each other and don't let these kind of things ruin our paths.

Collapse
 
rhaenyraliang profile image
Rhaenyra • Edited

Thank you for reading this article ! Yes ,we will become more and more brave!😊
Thank you!

Collapse
 
jess profile image
Jess Lee

I'm really sorry you've had to experience this. Thank you for your bravery and sharing your experience 💜

Collapse
 
rhaenyraliang profile image
Rhaenyra

Thank you for reading this article!
I will keep going, share, contribute, and embrace everyone who encounters difficulties in this way 💜

Collapse
 
morgannadev profile image
Morganna

I'm sorry that all this happened to you. And thank you for sharing your experience. This kind of behavior happens all the time, and sometimes, we get terrified to share because, most of the time, no one believes in us. Everything scares us in the tech industry. But as you said, we must stay strong for ourselves and other women. I hope you have kind people around you who help you get through all this.

Collapse
 
akashdev23 profile image
Akash Dev

Thank you for sharing your story. Go ahead queen. There's a saying in my local language. हाथी चले बाजार कुत्ते भौंके हजार which simply means that when a person progresses with something or succeeds, the people often vilify him and protest. (So let them do what they do. A high-level person doesn't need anything to stop progressing or succeeding).
It's really frustrating at times to see such comments but all you can do is ignore people like these. The world is very big and beautiful. Try not to spend your time and energy on these things.

Collapse
 
rhaenyraliang profile image
Rhaenyra

Thank you for reading this article!

The sentence in my local language is like 當有人成功時,人們通常會毀謗他。
Thank you for your courage, I agree with what you said.

I will keep going!

Collapse
 
lilxyzz profile image
Travis

Hi @rhaenyraliang, I'm sorry you had to go through such an unpleasant experience. It's disheartening to see discrimination and negativity. However, your resilience and determination are truly inspiring.

I appreciate you sharing this sensitive story and thank you for being part of the community. 🙌

Collapse
 
pavelee profile image
Paweł Ciosek

Thank you for the post! 🙏👏 Keep doing your job! 🙏

Collapse
 
rhaenyraliang profile image
Rhaenyra

Thank you for reading this article!I will keep going !🙏

Collapse
 
snowyang profile image
Snow Yáng

Go girl!

Collapse
 
rhaenyraliang profile image
Rhaenyra

Thank you!