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Umm are you looking for some motivation?

Riya Dashoriya
The girl who sleeps a lot
ใƒป6 min read

Am I ๐Ÿฅณ today?

Not every day, I wake up with happy feelings..excited for the day (I wish though!!!) Some days, I go to bed again if I don't feel good after waking up ๐Ÿ‘€ For me, I come first. My mental health is always my ๐Ÿ” priority I believe..if I'm taking care of myself, I can take care of everything else. For that, keeping myself motivated is a big task.

But.. I love over-thinking and over-analyzing situations. I have the power to think about the worst possible thing that could happen ๐Ÿ˜• Occasional meltdowns. Embarrassing moments. CRYing ๐Ÿ˜ฟ In last 3 years, I've had many instances where I lost my cool. And you know what - its okay!

"It's okay to cry. It helps clean your eyes and removes dirty water from your body." - my Dad ๐Ÿ˜‚

What's more important is how I get my life together after that. ๐Ÿฅณ I'm sharing some things that I do, to stay positive, to keep myself motivated, to stop myself from quitting. It's not easy every day. ๐Ÿ™‚ It doesn't work every day. So what? It works some times, and that's what matters. I hope this will help you too! ๐Ÿ˜‡

Note: This is in no particular order. It works for me, might not work for you.

1. Take proper rest ๐Ÿ›Œ

Sleep. Sometimes when you don't feel right about something, take a damn nap. ๐Ÿ’ค It helps. Then when you wake up, you'll be fresh and be able to start again with a new perspective. ๐Ÿ˜€

2. Believe in new ๐Ÿ†• beginnings

It's okay to start over and over again ๐Ÿ”. You don't have to wait until January 1 to start something new ๐Ÿค— Every day is a brand new, with new possibilities, with new opportunities. Start fresh every day ๐Ÿค 
Quote by Lalah Delia - New moon, New you.

3. Talk to friends & family or your close ones ๐Ÿค

Sometimes, just having someone you can talk to, someone who will listen๐Ÿ‘‚ to you, helps a lot. Whenever I get frustrated, I ๐Ÿ“ž my Dad and rants about everything. In that, he will provide me comfort and cheer me up. Text your friends. Talk to your mentor. Find a therapist ๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€โš•๏ธ๐Ÿ‘จโ€โš•๏ธ
PS: I'll be happy to lend an ear whenever you need one. :)

4. Take โ‘  day at a time ๐Ÿ˜Œ

Sometimes, things aren't easy, and you might feel like nothing is working; nothing is going right or as planned. When I was moving places in May, I was very much overwhelmed with everything going on in life. I knew San Francisco ๐ŸŒ‰ is where I want to be but made no plans. I panicked ๐Ÿ˜จ when I got the job and realized I'd have to move in 2 weeks. Stepping outside comfort zone ๐Ÿ˜ต The best advice I got from my mentor was to take a deep breath ๐Ÿ˜Œ and take 1 day at a time. Every day I woke up and planned for that exact day. That helped me for the next 3 months until I felt comfortable again ๐Ÿ’ซ

5. Read inspirational books/quotes ๐Ÿ“–

I tried reading books like "The subtle art of not giving a fck," and "Everything is fked, but there's still hope."๐Ÿคž God knows, I only read 50ish pages of both the books before I stopped again. ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ I can't read books whatsoever. ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ But I read quotes in the morning every day until I find the one which makes me ready for the day. ๐Ÿ˜Ž
PS: I've started sharing that one quote every day on Twitter. Follow the hashtag #RiyasThoughts or me @ReeyahSDasoriya if you're looking for some inspiration.
Screenshot of Riya's twitter feed

6. Surround yourself with people ๐Ÿ‘ป who motivate you.

If you are on any social media, follow (don't โ›”๏ธ stalk/harass please) people who inspire you. I read stories on twitter about people doing fantastic ๐Ÿคฉ in their fields, which excites ๐Ÿ˜ฒ me to do good things. On Instagram, I've been following a few accounts who post inspirational quotes now and then. Every ๐ŸŒž I open Insta just to read good quotes to start my day. I'd highly recommend this.
Quote by Gohar Abelian - Surround yourself with the game changers and magic makers.

7. Find a hobby which makes you smile.

I sometimes bake desserts or go to ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿป classes. Cooking disasters always brings a smile on my face. And if the baked item turns out good, then OHMYDESSERTS ๐ŸŽ‚๐Ÿฅฎ๐Ÿฐ๐Ÿง๐Ÿฅ! Dancing helps me forget everything going on in life, and be myself. If you are interested in ๐ŸŽจ, ๐ŸŽ™, ๐ŸŽน๐ŸŽธ, ๐ŸŒณ, or any other activities - do it. Do whatever helps to get through the day.

8. Spend some quality me-time ๐Ÿ˜‡

Stay quiet for a while. Take a ๐Ÿ. I've realized that sometimes I need some me-time to recharge myself. Block off everything and DO NOTHING ๐Ÿ™…โ€โ™€๏ธ
Quote by Beau Taplin: I have learned I can survive just about anything so long as I am occasionally allowed a few quiet moments to myself - time to restore my spirit, to mend my wounds, to regroup. A little me time and I can deal with anything the world sends my way.
PS: No, not everytime youโ€™ve stay silent. Sometimes venting out anger/frustration, sobbing, screaming helps you calm down. Donโ€™t be afraid to do it.

9. Take a break before/when burn-down happens.

Knowing when-to is not easy ๐Ÿ˜‘ Sometimes you might not realize it early, but as soon as you do, leave. It affects your mental health. Learn when to let things go. I give multiple chances to people, to situations - sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Find the limit.

10. You don't have to share opinions on everything.

NO, seriously. You don't have to reply to every tweet. You โŒ have to say aloud whatever is on your mind. Please give it some โฐ to resolve on its own. Last week, I over-analyzed a situation and created a problem in my head which never existed in the first place ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ
Quote from Moonbabe.se: My thoughts are optional. I can choose not to think them.

11. SEEK WHATEVER SETS YOUR SOUL ON FIRE ๐Ÿ”ฅ

Wanna watch cute ๐Ÿถ and ๐Ÿ˜ธ videos? Please do it. Not in a mood to code ๐Ÿ’ป -> don't. Don't wanna wake up? Sleep again ๐Ÿ˜ด. Hungry? EAT.

Final thoughts

BE KIND TO YOURSELF! BE KIND TO OTHERS! BE YOU! Take pride in whatever you do. Honor you. Do it all for you. Appreciate yourself โ˜๐Ÿป
These are the things that help me. They might or might not work for you ๐Ÿ™‚ I'm sharing this with the hope that at least one person will be inspired and feel good about themselves today or later, now or forever. As you start planning for 2020 goals, remember 2020 is very personal, and you owe yourself a lot.

Please share in comments what works for you and what doesn't. I'm sure that will help me and everyone else. ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

Ending this post with some of my favorite quotes I recently read -

Quote by Richelle E Goodrich - Don't ever give up. Don't ever give in. Don't ever stop trying. Don't ever sell out. And if you find yourself succumbing to one of the above for a brief moment, pick yourself up, brush yourself off, whisper a prayer, and start where you left off. But never, ever, ever give up.

Quote by April Green - remember the time when you didn't think you could carry on; when the sky fell in on you, and the stars floated further away? And here you are. Still - wildflower turning towards the light. Never forget that there is endless grace in the place where you're standing. never forget that you belong here - exactly where you were designed to be.

Quote by Yung pueblo on essentials for tough days: do not punish yourself. Give yourself ample kindness. Remember that all things change. Make sure that you get a good rest. Do things that will calm your mind. Accomplish smaller goals that day. Real acceptance can remove blocks. This is the time to practice patience. Growth can come with tough moments. a bad moment does not equal a bad life.

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