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Nazanin Ashrafi
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Do You Find Other People's Success To Be Inspiring Or Discouraging?

How do you feel when you see someone has achieved something?

How do you feel when someone tweets " I got a job" or "I got promoted"? Or when someone posts their expensive car on Instagram?

How do you feel when you see someone's social media is growing? Or when someone's book is doing great in selling? etc


I'm gonna be honest, there was a time when I used to feel useless and envy success people; like wow how did they do it ? They're a genius, I'm so jealous!

But I don't feel like that anymore.
Actually I find it pretty inspiring. And honestly you should too.
It even helps me to work harder towards my goals


Okay first let's see why some people would feel discouraged , jealous and demotivated when they see other's achievements!

I can only think of two reasons :

  • They don't know about the pain and struggle behind the success.
    They don't know what those successful people went through to be where they are now.
    It didn't just happen over a night, it was result hard work .
    Therefore it could lead people to think they have no chance of achieving great things and feel demotivated.

  • They're simply jealous (in some cases, they're a narcissist) and think if someone achieve something it means there's no room for them, might even try to do something to ruin other's success.
    I know someone who literally would not want anyone to be in a higher level than them!
    Please don't be like them!


    And now let's see why you should feel inspired rather than discouraged :

  • As we've already talked about, their success was the result of hard work, so if they could make it then so can you.

  • We can learn from them.
    All of those who have achieved great things are supportive and try to do everything to help us grow as well.
    You don't know how to do something? Go ask them and they'll happily help you.

  • just because you haven't achieved something yet, it doesn't mean you're less than them.
    They are a living proof that we can achieve great things if you believe in yourself and work hard.

  • Sometimes you might feel like your progress is slower than others and feel overwhelmed or might even feel you're left behind!
    But don't forget, they have started their journey before you and they're more experienced than you are.
    So don't worry you will get there, it just takes time. Be patient.


To summarize the article :

  • You can learn from people's success
  • You're moving at your own pace.
  • Don't compare yourself to others.
  • Don't be a jealous narcissist.
  • celebrating people's success won't ruin your future achievements. There's room for everyone.
  • You know nothing about their struggles.

Discussion (3)

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Ritvik Dubey

I think I read it when I needed to read such thing. Thanks Naz for writing 🙌

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Nazanin Ashrafi Author

Glad to hear it was helpful 😍🙌🙌

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Andrew Brown 🇨🇦

I'm always jealous lol.