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Nadine M. Thêry

Really nice article. In my first degree in Political Sciences we were trained for debate. So disagreeing and finding reasons against something you may actually agreed with was a great exercise. It made me critic even with my own ideas. But also with all ideas.
I must recognise that arguing is probably my weakest point. I can easily debate, but I am not able to get over it when somebody is rude, yelling or making it personal. So I tend to end the situation by saying that I won't talk in those terms. The weakness is that I tend to get stuck in the argument, mentally. Is something I need to improve.

So, yes, get over myself and do not making it personal. Hehe.

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Ryland G

It sounds like those were really great exercises that really broadened your comfort zone. You don't need to attend university to get that environment. There are tons of meetups where you can develop these skills without paying $5k a quarter (or more in my case).

I can easily debate, but I am not able to get over it when somebody is rude, yelling or making it personal. So I tend to end the situation by saying that I won't talk in those terms. The weakness is that I tend to get stuck in the argument, mentally. Is something I need to improve.

You shouldn't get over it. Being rude is more acceptable but never tolerate yelling or personal attacks. Personal attacks are a fallacy in themselves.

Glad you enjoyed it, appreciate the comment.