I've been a professional C, Perl, PHP and Python developer.
I'm an ex-sysadmin from the late 20th century.
These days I do more Javascript and CSS and whatnot, and promote UX and accessibility.
The alternative, which absolutely nobody wants to talk about, is that you're actually the impostor you fear you are.
I say this because when anyone brings the topic up, people start trying to help by telling them they're really smart/capable/whatever. 99% of the time, these are people genuinely trying to be helpful - but who don't even know the person in question.
Exactly! That's why this approach works better for me, at least. With my approach, even if you are "the impostor" then it's fine, because it just means you have more to learn. It's the same approach I take to people disliking me: rather than trying to fight to deny that people dislike you, just say "yeah OK they don't like me. Now what?". It's forward looking rather than backward facing.
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The alternative, which absolutely nobody wants to talk about, is that you're actually the impostor you fear you are.
I say this because when anyone brings the topic up, people start trying to help by telling them they're really smart/capable/whatever. 99% of the time, these are people genuinely trying to be helpful - but who don't even know the person in question.
Exactly! That's why this approach works better for me, at least. With my approach, even if you are "the impostor" then it's fine, because it just means you have more to learn. It's the same approach I take to people disliking me: rather than trying to fight to deny that people dislike you, just say "yeah OK they don't like me. Now what?". It's forward looking rather than backward facing.