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How to Start a Conversation Without Saying a Word

Molly Struve (she/her) on January 28, 2019

How many of you LOVE going to conferences, but hate the awkwardness of having to walk up and talk to people you don't know??? I am definitely in...
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Yechiel Kalmenson

OMG! This is the post I needed and didn't know!

From the other direction, make it easier for people to join in your conversations. One excellent rule I heard is to follow the "Pac-Man rule"; whenever a few people are standing around and talking, don't close the circle, leave an open spot to signal to others that it's ok to join.

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Molly Struve (she/her)

I have never heard of the "Pac-Man rule", I love it! Will definitely remember that one for the future!!! Thanks!

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Ben Halpern • Edited

shop.dev.to 😉

Hope to see folks around conferences this year!

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Tryggvi Björgvinsson

Hmm... I wonder if the dev apron can be a good conversation starter at conferences 🤔

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Ben Halpern

Bring your BBQ!

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buphmin

For me I like to dress nice, and in particular wear nice shoes.

It still surprises me how much people actually pay attention to shoes. The craziest moment was when I was riding my bike home from work in the dark and a motorcycle pulled up next to me and saw my shoes somehow and the guy said something like "wow, those are some awesome shoes!" So it does not have to necessarily be a graphic to start a conversation, sometimes just your overall presentation can be enough.

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Molly Struve (she/her)

SO TRUE! I usually go for the easy graphic but if your personal style is enough to engage someone to strike up a conversation then definitely, stick to it! My personal style is a little boring so I gotta put some extra effort in to actually make sure I "stand out" 😉

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Max Ong Zong Bao • Edited

😂 😂 😂 Makes me want to get the game of throne t-shirt with the word "Winter is Coming"

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Molly Struve (she/her)

LOVE Game of Thrones!

I have this shirt 👇

The first time I wore it to work I ended up talking with a few people I had never really had a conversation with before. It was pretty cool.

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Thomas Aquainas

Conversation starter? MAGA hat. Nuff said.

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Rick Page

Sombrero

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Max Ong Zong Bao

You mean a straw hat right? 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂

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Maciek Chmura

Perfect timing for me to read this.
I am going for a meetup today. Need to wear my Hacktoberfest Tshirt then ;D

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Molly Struve (she/her)

YES!!!! So jealous, I was working to get one but didn't quite meet the deadline. Definitely going to be trying for it again this year 😃

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Max Antonucci

Another useful tip along these lines: wear buttons! I plan to wear a wide variety of buttons so a wide variety of people can approach me.

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Molly Struve (she/her)

YES! You could put them all over your backpack!

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Max Antonucci

Believe me I'm way ahead of you there :P

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Alexander Antoniades

Next time I see people with these t-shirts I'll know where they got the idea from :p

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morgana

This is genius!

I need to go shopping now...

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John Paul Ada

I do this! :D I'm hoping a lot more people talk to me :'D

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wiz

this an excellent idea. No doubt!
Thanx @molly