Python programmer, Django developer and SQL slayer. I have been programming for over 10 years; each one of those years has included a bug or 2.
Engineering manager and SRE for Envelop Risk
For some devs it's toxicity. It starts off as a comment here or there and can quickly inflate into a nasty habit. I have worked with some people who are technically brilliant, but they were so toxic (code reviews, one on one (bitching), emails and meetings) . Without realising there actions were deeply impacting the team, junior devs wouldn't ask question, managers would just leave them be. They would start to feel isolated and more toxic.
One lunch a met up with... Dave (I will call them Dave) as part of our company team lunches. He mentioned he is "feeling more and more isolated and he thinks management want to fire" him. After a long chat I felt he was in the right place to be told. I simply said "Dave, management want you here and so do the other devs, I think I know what the problem might be, people feel they cannot approach you to have a positive conversation".
I specifically did not say toxic, and kept it as light as possible.
The real telling moment was when he looked up in realisation and just smiled.
Following that conversation he arranged a lunch date with each person in the team, his whole attitude changed (apart from a few wobbles) he was a completely different guy. It was amazing to see. He went from toxic to positive in weeks. He was one of the few people I knew who could take on criticism and figure it out.
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For some devs it's toxicity. It starts off as a comment here or there and can quickly inflate into a nasty habit. I have worked with some people who are technically brilliant, but they were so toxic (code reviews, one on one (bitching), emails and meetings) . Without realising there actions were deeply impacting the team, junior devs wouldn't ask question, managers would just leave them be. They would start to feel isolated and more toxic.
One lunch a met up with... Dave (I will call them Dave) as part of our company team lunches. He mentioned he is "feeling more and more isolated and he thinks management want to fire" him. After a long chat I felt he was in the right place to be told. I simply said "Dave, management want you here and so do the other devs, I think I know what the problem might be, people feel they cannot approach you to have a positive conversation".
I specifically did not say toxic, and kept it as light as possible.
The real telling moment was when he looked up in realisation and just smiled.
Following that conversation he arranged a lunch date with each person in the team, his whole attitude changed (apart from a few wobbles) he was a completely different guy. It was amazing to see. He went from toxic to positive in weeks. He was one of the few people I knew who could take on criticism and figure it out.