I was told by a colleague in sales at work that he liked me "because I explain things without being condescending and making them feel stupid" so it's not only between developers.
I was surprised by his comments because most of the developers I talk face-to-face are quite nice but then I remember all the times I had the kind of interactions you described.
In my experience, it happens more online (site or emails).
I wonder if it's an issue of attributing a tone to the message we read and it may often be the wrong one (like perceiving the comment as an attack and reacting strongly?).
It happens a lot.
I was told by a colleague in sales at work that he liked me "because I explain things without being condescending and making them feel stupid" so it's not only between developers.
I was surprised by his comments because most of the developers I talk face-to-face are quite nice but then I remember all the times I had the kind of interactions you described.
In my experience, it happens more online (site or emails).
I wonder if it's an issue of attributing a tone to the message we read and it may often be the wrong one (like perceiving the comment as an attack and reacting strongly?).
Also, you can see those kinds of comments here too ;)
Here's one for example: dev.to/_mosiatj/comment/ac94
And the response to that comment (dev.to/kurisutofu/comment/acae) is brilliant! Totally puts him in his place :-)