re: 10 things I've learned from working remotely VIEW POST

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"Make plans to socialize outside of work at least once a week"

This always reminds me of:

I have the feeling most people who want to work from home are not very social. Maybe they don't like much people, and then they want to get out of the office, so they don't have to meet them.

In the end, they sit alone at home and wonder how they could have gone for weeks without socializing.

For me, it was somehow different.

I didn't work for a year, and at the end of it, I had a full schedule. I had the feeling to have so much to do in my private life, that I couldn't work anymore. So I started working remotely because it gave me much more time for my friends and partners.

 

I don't know, most of the people I work with (a mostly remote company) are actually very social people. I guess it depends from culture to culture, but the reason I put that tip in is that regardless of people being social or not, we all need some human socialization for our health. It's good to be proactive. :)

 

It comes from a combination of the "hacker" stereotype and the fact that a great many (if not most) software developers (who are arguably the pioneers of mainstreaming remote work) tend to be introverts. Between the two, you end up with the stereotype that "working from home" equals "no socializing, ever." There also now seems to be this idea that your work is your socialization (this, to me, is all kinds of messed up).

The reality, though, is that if you're not socializing outside of work (regardless of where you work), it's ultimately your own fault. Working remotely just shines a GIANT spotlight on your negligence in that department, because it removes the "socialization" veneer of working in an office around other people.

Working remotely forces you to be mindful of a great many things that you can essentially ignore/neglect when working in an office.

 

I can't stress this more: "if you're not socializing outside of work (regardless of where you work), it's ultimately your own fault. Working remotely just shines a GIANT spotlight on your negligence in that department".

I believe the most healthy relationships emerge from your permanent hobbies. Work socialization can turn into changing skins every time you change your work, which is more often now than older generations.

Yeah, I honestly hate changing my personas. I am usually unapologetically myself during interviews (note this does not mean unapologetically cocky! hahaha), so that if I act like myself during work, nobody is confused.

But to your point, being proactive outside of work to socialize is very very important. I agree that working remotely just points it out and makes it more obvious how much you need it.

 

That's such a good point. I never really thought of it that way "Highlighting what you ignore/neglect when working in an office" <- SO FREAKING TRUE.

I guess for me I never really had problems socializing outside of work. In fact, I usually need to cut that back because I am human and the amount of socializing I did was really hard for me to maintain my home routines/structure. I am really glad you pointed this out though because that is definitely where I think working remotely gets a lot of the negative associations.

Working remotely I think will get more popular with my generation (millennial) because of the flexibility of it. I have a suspicion that it's going to be even more popular when my generation has more kids (my friends with kids already are taking more work from home days)

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