Overall, this article has some great points. I just want to clear up a common misconception that's stated in the title and throughout the post.
Shyness, nervousness, and poor people skills are not the same as introversion. Intro/extroversion are related to where one derives energy. I know many outgoing introverts and many quiet extroverts. Outgoing introverts are wonderful in group settings, but at the end of the day they need plenty of alone time to recharge. Quiet extroverts may not have the best crowd skills, but they still prefer to silently be near people rather than being alone.
What you share here is very valuable. Indeed, you should strive to be open, approachable, and friendly! Stepping out of your comfort zone is great! But if one is introverted, no amount of effort can help them be able to derive energy from crowds, just like extroverts can't derive energy from alone time. The "Selective Extroversion" you mention is really more of "Willingness to be Uncomfortable."
I only go to lengths to describe this because it can be taken as insulting to compare introversion to bad people skills. For example:
"For introverts, its talking to people, working in teams, articulating your ideas and pitching it in front of a greater audience."
The implication that introverts are unable to talk to people, work on a team, or even articulate ideas could easily be taken as an insult. One's need to solidarity should have no effect on their ability to do these things. There may be a decent correlation between these, but they are not equals.
Again, this is great advice! Thank you for writing it, and for trying to help others take a leap that you did 😊 Please just consider revisiting these terms and perhaps revising the wording of your advice. There are only 2 hard things in CS: invalidating cache and naming things.
Hi. Thank you for your valuable feedback. I can certainly see the ambiguity that can lead to the misconception that I was targeting introverts. I appreciate the time you took out to point it out in an elaborate way.
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Overall, this article has some great points. I just want to clear up a common misconception that's stated in the title and throughout the post.
Shyness, nervousness, and poor people skills are not the same as introversion. Intro/extroversion are related to where one derives energy. I know many outgoing introverts and many quiet extroverts. Outgoing introverts are wonderful in group settings, but at the end of the day they need plenty of alone time to recharge. Quiet extroverts may not have the best crowd skills, but they still prefer to silently be near people rather than being alone.
What you share here is very valuable. Indeed, you should strive to be open, approachable, and friendly! Stepping out of your comfort zone is great! But if one is introverted, no amount of effort can help them be able to derive energy from crowds, just like extroverts can't derive energy from alone time. The "Selective Extroversion" you mention is really more of "Willingness to be Uncomfortable."
I only go to lengths to describe this because it can be taken as insulting to compare introversion to bad people skills. For example:
"For introverts, its talking to people, working in teams, articulating your ideas and pitching it in front of a greater audience."
The implication that introverts are unable to talk to people, work on a team, or even articulate ideas could easily be taken as an insult. One's need to solidarity should have no effect on their ability to do these things. There may be a decent correlation between these, but they are not equals.
Again, this is great advice! Thank you for writing it, and for trying to help others take a leap that you did 😊 Please just consider revisiting these terms and perhaps revising the wording of your advice. There are only 2 hard things in CS: invalidating cache and naming things.
Hi. Thank you for your valuable feedback. I can certainly see the ambiguity that can lead to the misconception that I was targeting introverts. I appreciate the time you took out to point it out in an elaborate way.