I had arrived too early around 30 minutes before my appointment with a cosmetologist and still had time to spend alone in a nice cafe.
I like this state because there is that opportunity to think.
And I am coming up with the idea for today post: how to overcome the pressure to be perfect.
There are really a lot of things which inspired me writing about this topic.
For example, my skin.
I always wanted to have perfect, smooth, nice looking and clean one, without any problems, but I don't have and have to visit a cosmetologist for that, spend around 2 hours there that to reach and maintain a "fine" skin level.
Instead of the perfect result which I continue pursuing.
However, I see the progress. And that motivates me to believe that one day I will have skin which I want.
Sorry, that you waste a few seconds to read that kind of personal "intro" to the post about one of my "pains."
Let's move closer to the point.
Most people want to make things perfect. Sometimes we evaluate the complexity of an upcoming goal or a problem. So, the fear to not complete it perfectly or "wrong" (Yeah, who are judges? 🤔) stops us even from trying.
I am the same type. And writing a blog post about how to deal with perfectionism and the pressure to be perfect is kind of ironic.
However, I have had to learn a lot so that I still can give fewer fucks and get stuff done, keep moving forward even if I feel like things are not that cool enough.
And now I want to share my learnings (btw, I am still learning) about how to not pressure yourself if the things are not going that perfect.
Usually, we can find ourselves chasing something that's not even possible to accomplish in the short term as we would like.
So that, during the process we forget to look at what we have accomplished already.
As a result, we shift our perspective and stop motivating ourselves to keep going and giving up soon.
Instead, try to focus on the progress that you have made already. Because progress breeds confidence and can often be the push you need to keep continuing.
The truth, I get overwhelmed all the time. You do the same, right?
I am trying to take on my TODO-list too much, starting things I don't usually finish. Besides that, I love planning and have commitment issues (in my case, it means, I am just flat out afraid of failing).
To handle the mess of my ambitions, I remind myself and follow the simple lifehack:
... As I am continuing to try new things...
... And putting myself out my comfort zone...
... So that, I am doing my best and always something 👌
When it comes down to it, we are only human. And I genuinely believe context switching helps us avoid routine, boost our productivity and applies to just about everything.
In life, everyone ends up somewhere, but few end up somewhere on purpose. We should define the life direction, where we would go to and reach that.
Perfectionism can play a harmful role in our journey to your dreams. After 10 times of failure, we intend to give up and shift a direction. I have tried to do that too and understood later, perhaps, after 100 times of failing I will be there where I want to be? 🤔 Let's see.
Also, it's essential to balance switching between social roles.
For example, in the morning I am an employee, and in the evening I am a daughter for my parents, that actually still don't understand what I am actually doing in my life and always support me.
I am seeking perfection, and I am not a perfectionist, because I cannot do things perfectly 🤷♀️
But I have learned that doing small things is often more important than doing big things. And I am trying to focus on this when I am stuck.
If you want to do something perfectly, break your goal down into smaller tasks. I always find it easiest to get stuff done when I am not thinking about every aspect of the project at the same time.
I have known for a long time that nobody is perfect, but as though I still feel I am only just starting to get in my core.
I am trying to be real with people in offline and online life. However, I have my bad days and anxieties and problems. And everybody has them.
Just accept yourself and try to improve yourself in the "gaps" you have.
Even though, sometimes the imperfect things in us (in our opinions) are the most attractive for others. I am happy to have "my people" in life:
- They are fun
- They are kind
- They are real
- They have their flaws
Thank you for reading this post!
I think it would be cool to get a conversation going about the role of perfectionism in your life.
Do you have any pressure because of that? If yes, how does it impact you?
Do you have any other approaches to handle that? Yes? How?
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