Honestly, I'm a self taught developer who has never had this issue.
Granted - I'm a dude, so gender might be part of it. I'm older than you, so maybe age has something to do with it. I'm also American, and I can't speak to the developer culture in Spain.
What your describing reminds me a bit of light hazing. This is actually super common pretty much everywhere no matter your vocation. People are testing you to see if you can take some heat. There is tons of psychological research out there about how some behavior like this actually bonds peer groups together much tighter. It can sometimes shade into toxicity, and if it does you should leave , but most of the time it is harmless and actually essential to group cohesion and productivity.
It's really hard to get the balance right between epistemological humility and standing your ground when your right, but my experience is if you have something to say, it's worth saying, and you say it well , most people will listen. So maybe one of those 3 components is missing from your interactions. Development is competitive and being a little combative intellectually is quite helpful at establishing your street cred.
I don't know you, or your peers, or your situation. This is just an observation from a formerly awkward person who never got respect, and now gets it in spades.
... your mileage may vary.
BTW - if your a working Software Engineer at 23, your in good shape. In 5 years you'll be making 6 figures and laughing all the way to the bank. Your literally in the 10% already. I wish I was that smart when I was in my 20s.
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Honestly, I'm a self taught developer who has never had this issue.
Granted - I'm a dude, so gender might be part of it. I'm older than you, so maybe age has something to do with it. I'm also American, and I can't speak to the developer culture in Spain.
What your describing reminds me a bit of light hazing. This is actually super common pretty much everywhere no matter your vocation. People are testing you to see if you can take some heat. There is tons of psychological research out there about how some behavior like this actually bonds peer groups together much tighter. It can sometimes shade into toxicity, and if it does you should leave , but most of the time it is harmless and actually essential to group cohesion and productivity.
It's really hard to get the balance right between epistemological humility and standing your ground when your right, but my experience is if you have something to say, it's worth saying, and you say it well , most people will listen. So maybe one of those 3 components is missing from your interactions. Development is competitive and being a little combative intellectually is quite helpful at establishing your street cred.
I don't know you, or your peers, or your situation. This is just an observation from a formerly awkward person who never got respect, and now gets it in spades.
... your mileage may vary.
BTW - if your a working Software Engineer at 23, your in good shape. In 5 years you'll be making 6 figures and laughing all the way to the bank. Your literally in the 10% already. I wish I was that smart when I was in my 20s.