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Facundo Corradini

Hi Sebastian,

Believe me, I've tried. But at this point I think it would be like shouting "be nice" right in the middle of The Hunger Games. It's the system what creates the bad behaviour, and no amount of well-intended words will change that.

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Sebastian Vargr • Edited

In my experience toxic behavior most often rears it head unintentionally, bad language, and thoughtless argumentation feeds confrontation, the cure is knowledge, empathy, and patience.

If we prevent' toxic behavior it will find it's way back eventually.
If we call it out, they will become defensive and try to retaliate.

If we teach one toxic person to be a better person, he might rub off on another and so on tho.
That takes a lot of time & empathy tho.

I think if we judge toxic behavior, we also need to judge our selves.
We might unintentially' be feeding the toxic behavior, by trying to "be nice".