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Ekemini Samuel
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Dealing with Rejection After Applying to Hundreds of Jobs

Recently, I went through two interviews and a technical test, only to receive an email saying the hiring process was paused. I’m unsure whether it’s a subtle rejection or just a delay, but it’s not the first time this has happened. Over the past few months, I’ve applied to hundreds—possibly thousands—of jobs, sent countless emails, DMs on LinkedIn and Twitter, and even spoken to people in person. Yet, here I am, still waiting for that opportunity to come through.

There were moments where I landed roles, only to be laid off soon after.

At times like these, it’s hard to stay motivated because the outcome we strive for—the job—hasn’t materialized yet. However, through reading, podcasts, and learning from people like Andrew Tate, I’ve come to realize that focusing on what you can control is key. It’s far more productive and healthy to keep taking action rather than dwelling on what hasn’t happened.

For me, taking action means continuing to learn through online courses, writing, and publishing articles like this one.

This is Day 1 of my 100 days of transformation challenge; writing one article everyday. Inspired after having a conversation with Grëg Häris

These activities may not yield immediate results, but they are part of the process that ultimately leads to success. If you think about it, it’s a win-win situation: by learning and creating content, I’m improving my skills. Even if I don’t land a job right away, I’ve still built something valuable that could help someone else, and when the job does come, I’ll be even more prepared.

One principle that keeps me going is adopting a "Win or Learn" mindset. This approach helps me push through, even on difficult days.

So, how do I deal with rejection?

  1. Focus on What I Can Control

    I may not be able to control whether I get the job, but I can control how I respond to rejection. By investing time in learning and creating, I’m taking positive steps forward.

  2. Adopt a "Win or Learn" Mindset

    Instead of seeing rejection as failure, I view it as a learning experience. Each setback teaches me something new, and over time, those lessons will compound into something greater.

  3. Reflect and Get Feedback

    I often ask myself: are there things I should start or stop doing? Should I pivot? It’s important to avoid falling into the trap of the sunk cost fallacy—continuing to invest time, money, or effort into something that isn’t working, just because you’ve already invested so much. For me, dropping out of university was a tough decision, but it was necessary because it wasn’t working for me despite the time and money already spent. You need to figure out what that is for you.

  4. Be Present and Celebrate Small Wins

    Some days ago, I was feeling down, so I created a note listing all my wins in 2024. That simple act helped me realize how much progress I’ve made. You can do the same—whether it’s writing down three wins a day or starting a gratitude journal, reflecting on your achievements can give you the motivation to keep moving forward.

Rejection is a form of energy. As Albert Einstein said: "Energy cannot be created or destroyed, but can be transformed from one form to another"

Instead of letting rejection bring you down, use it as energy to become better, push yourself forward, and get into an upward spiral.

Starting from today - write down 3 wins daily or 3 things you're grateful for.

Until next time,
Ekemini

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Drazen Bebic

Great article. Looking forward to the next one 🙌

The only thing I would be careful about is taking advice from Andrew Tate. I don't want to tell you what to do, and the lesson you learned is a valid one indeed, but he is a known misogynist and demagogue.

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Ekemini Samuel

Thank you, Drazen.

Well, I don't know Andrew Tate to be that, what I know is I've been learning a lot from the insights he shares.

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flanagansworld

well said 👏 not very surprising the author still hasn't got a job considering he is taking advice from someone who has been charged with being a human trafficking rapist who formed an organised crime group to sexually exploit women 😂

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James Emmanuel

I'm also careful about taking advice from Andrew Tate.

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flanagansworld

👏

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Akash Das

I also going through the same phase of life and started sharing blogs about what I have learned on daily basis. Even I have not joined any jobs since now I am pushing myself to focus on what I can control like upskilling myself and keep sharing with people who will be helped . The motivation here is Every time we will not be success .Sometimes we will fail to learn and improve ourself. Keep it up buddy . You will make it happen. Be motivated and keep motivating others. 🙌

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Ekemini Samuel

Thank you so much, Akash; seeing others putting in the effort and working towards great goals is motivating!

Do you publish your blogs here on dev.to?

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Akash Das

I write on hashnode and linked in.

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Ekemini Samuel

That's cool!

Could you share a link to one of your blog posts?

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Akash Das
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Akash Das

akashdas7781.hashnode.dev/
It's my hashnode blog profile. Please check for more details.

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Ekemini Samuel

Great! I just checked it out!

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Ekemini Samuel

Yes, checked this too.

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Akash Das

Thank you buddy😊

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Ekemini Samuel

You're welcome man! 😎

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Ekemini Samuel

You're welcome

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Saurabh Rai

Keep working hard, Ekemini,
Your post reminds me of when I went out to create Resume Matcher for this purpose.

Rejection is a form of energy. As Albert Einstein said: "Energy cannot be created or destroyed, but can be transformed from one form to another"

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Santosh S

Wow! ~5K + 1 stars. Great work mate!

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Saurabh Rai

Thanks a lot! ^^

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Ekemini Samuel

Thank you, Saurabh.

Great work you did with Resume Matcher.

Did you also integrate AI features to it?

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Saurabh Rai

Not yet. It's in development. (Assuming by AI you mean Gen AI, not Machine Learning)

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Ekemini Samuel

Okay, how's the development going?

Oh I meant AI generally, not just Gen AI/Machine Learning

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Saurabh Rai

It's going on . . . I won't say the progress is linear so far.
But going somewhere.

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Ekemini Samuel

Alright, that's great!

Keep up the good work.

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Anmol Baranwal

Exactly Ekemini, the only way to grow (or win) is to try hard.

It’s really hard when nothing seems to work but the only option is to keep moving forward.

I’ve been through those low moments too so I understand very well. Stay strong and work hard.

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Ekemini Samuel

Yes Anmol, I just got to keep a positive mindset and continue taking action in the right direction.

Thank you for contributing ❤

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Onyeacholem Ifeanyi Joshua

This is inspiring and beautiful motivation article you gat here. Thanks 🙏.. keep it up, one day we shall gather to also testify the good news . Some of us are in that shoe, but we keep pushing, that doesn't mean we are not competent developers, one thing is sure .

"God doesn't make mistakes".

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Ekemini Samuel

Thank you, Onyeacholem.

Yes, one day at a time.

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James Emmanuel

It's comforting to know that I'm not alone on this. Dealing with rejection after applying to countless jobs can be disheartening, but focusing on what we can control is key,, we can turn rejection into the energy that propels us forward.

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Ekemini Samuel

Exactly James, it's about redirecting that energy positively!

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Henrique Arantes Ferreira

It's similar to Stoicism Philosophy! I'm really surprised!

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Ekemini Samuel

Thanks for your contribution.

What part of the Stoicism philosophy are you referring to?

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Henrique Arantes Ferreira • Edited
  1. Focus on What You Can Control:

    • “Focusing on what you can control is key. It’s far more productive and healthy to keep taking action rather than dwelling on what hasn’t happened.”
    • This is classic Stoicism—don’t stress about things outside your control (like getting the job). Just focus on what you can do, like learning and improving.
  2. Win or Learn Mindset:

    • “Adopt a 'Win or Learn' mindset... Each setback teaches me something new.”
    • Stoics see failures or rejections as a way to learn. It’s like saying, “Even if things don’t go my way, I’ll still gain something from it.” That’s the Stoic way of turning problems into opportunities.
  3. Reflect and Get Feedback:

    • “I often ask myself: are there things I should start or stop doing?”
    • Stoicism is all about reflecting on your actions and being smart about when to change things up. It’s about being practical and adjusting when necessary.
  4. Being Present and Celebrating Small Wins:

    • “Be present and celebrate small wins... reflecting on your achievements can give you motivation.”
    • Stoics encourage appreciating what’s happening now instead of always worrying about the future. Celebrating little wins keeps you grounded and motivated.
  5. Using Rejection as Energy:

    • “Instead of letting rejection bring you down, use it as energy to become better.”
    • Stoics believe that setbacks don’t need to be negative—you can turn them into fuel to improve yourself. It’s like saying, “If life throws me lemons, I’m gonna make lemonade and keep moving.”

These are all Stoic vibes—focusing on your response, learning from tough moments, and keeping a positive outlook even when things don’t go your way.

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Ekemini Samuel

Got it now! Thank you @henriquefcit for elaborating on it!

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Schmaus Ulrich Denis

Keep going 💪 don't give up

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Ekemini Samuel

Yes I will keep going forward, it's an upward spiral!

Thank you!

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Essienovic

I appreciate your candor. Great mindset!

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Ekemini Samuel

Thank you!

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Martin Baun • Edited

A great way to go about it could be like, “Thank god I won’t have to work for this idiot.” Because they must be not to hire you! :)

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Ekemini Samuel

Another perspective right 😅

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Hector Williams

I am in the same boat as you.I was laid off from my dream job and am currently in the process of a difficult job search

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Ekemini Samuel

Refine your skills and job search process, then keep improving, you got this, Hector.

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Jaemin Hong

Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable.
I'm also looking for a new job and can certainly relate to what you are going through.
I appreciate the healthful tips.

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Ekemini Samuel

That's great, Jaemin!

Keep doing the good work.

Have you tried reaching out to companies that align with your job role on LinkedIn?

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Grëg Häris

Great one man.

We will keep failing forward until we achieve our dreams. I believe that as we keep working hard, it will only be a matter of time - It will not be "if I win", but "when".

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Ekemini Samuel

Thank you, Greg.

Yes, "when we win"- and that time is now. ❤

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Faizullah Sayyed

That's what I feel and deal as a IT student.

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Ekemini Samuel

Information Technology (IT) offers great career paths to grow; so while learning think of ways to bring value through projects you can work on and contribute to.

Keep doing the good work!

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Owais Khan

Thanks for the advice. I really needed it