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Workplace without hate

Bnaya Zilberfarb on September 02, 2019

TL;DR the reason why there is no hate between any of the workers in my current workplace is we avoid gossip. I guess the best known part of the bi...
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Ornataweaver

Hatred is a crucial part of life.

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Bnaya Zilberfarb

Hatred is crucial where it's needed, I believe most of the time it's not the case.

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Ornataweaver

A hatful life is a wasted one. But I see people have become weak and careless. And there is too much hate by some weak people, who don't call it hate, and they feel entitled to everything.

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Bnaya Zilberfarb

I'm not sure I follow...

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Ornataweaver

There are lots of hateful people who call themselves oppressed, and they believe it's the duty of others to fight for them.

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Bnaya Zilberfarb

It's not perfect but as I said if you won't even listen to gossip and slander you are not letting those people spread their hates.

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Phil Ashby

Glad to hear this approach is working for your team and colleagues :)

Is there any corresponding positive statement/message, ie: what /can/ people talk about that might help them deal with resentment or feeling offended etc.?

Genuinely curious (having never tried this): do you ever find that people just take the slander outside the office (eg: to social media)?

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Bnaya Zilberfarb

Is there any corresponding positive statement/message, ie: what /can/ people talk about that might help them deal with resentment or feeling offended, etc.?

This is an interesting question, I would separate it to two, preventing offending behavior which I initially describe my way by avoiding myself from gossip and slander, and treatment which might be a very personal matter, for some people time can do the trick for others direct communication.

If you are talking about a case where you are not directly involved I believe personally avoiding slander is still helping as I describe, avoiding slander spread like the gossip itself.

Genuinely curious (having never tried this): do you ever find that people just take the slander outside the office (eg: to social media)?

I didn't met it in the workspace itself but I can see it all the time in the social media, I heard it's very common in school kids, I think the social media it's just a property of the root problem and we better deal with the root, if someone avoiding slander in person he becomes sensitive to it and will avoid it in social media as well.