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Arthur Zhuk

I would recommend not looking for outside validation for the work you do. It is enough that you are doing honest work and you should only look from within for validation as you know best whether you're doing good work or not.

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Steve Pereira

Respect and decency != Validation.

Where was OP talking about validation?

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DesirΓ© πŸ‘©β€πŸŽ“πŸ‘©β€πŸ«

Hello Arthur, thank you for your response.

Indeed! I'm not saying I search validation, I mean I literally loose lots of opportunities because my bosses/colleagues/company thinks I'm less qualified than I am and don't recognize my work.

So it's not really about how others see me or my work, but how can I prevent or stop them of treating me as if I know nothing!

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Matt Moran

Can I suggest, if you're not getting due respect from your work colleagues, that you do things like speak at user groups and conventions, create and demo stuff that you're enthusiastic about outside work, and show off your skills. If your colleagues see it, and see other people giving you kudos, it might wake them up to their crappy attitude - and if not, you'll have raised your own visibility in the tech community to the point where headhunters might well come looking for you, to get you to join another company for more money.
In any case, it's pretty much best practice these days to change jobs every 2-3 years, so you don't get stagnant.

 
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DesirΓ© πŸ‘©β€πŸŽ“πŸ‘©β€πŸ«

Hello, Matt!

Totally agree. Actually - it's what I've been doing, and I've received lots of proposals and attention, even though because of other personal reasons I couldn't accept them.

Still, I'm wondering how even after you're seeing someone that works for/with you is doing 'great' things, you still treat them as if they were a zero? I've been in a really unrealistic situations because of this.

I totally think there must be other private reasons to get this kind of attitude towards someone and they don't even care if you're good or successful, they'll keep on with that attitude.

 
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Steve Pereira

By all means, build your brand and visibility, but you don't have to prove yourself to assholes. Just don't work with them. If you need a new job I'm happy to help you search.

 
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abhilashc1981

Agreed. Also, bad treatment may the result of jealousy and an indicator that the person receiving bad treatment is doing a great job