I am a CTO for an international software company. I have taken time out of my schedule to write this for you as it is something I have experienced time and time again and is a concern for me.
I am double your age and manage teams of engineers and designers. Some have Ph.D.’s others have no degrees. Some have education and others are self-thought. I understand the value of people within our organization. Without knowing both sides of this story, what you are describing appears to be a cultural fit issue. My reason for saying this is that if it were to do with your hard-skills, and your work was not up to scratch, they would have let you know by now.
Being young, your soft-skills are still developing so my best advice is to communicate this with them effectively. It’s really a three-step process depending on the organizational structure.
Approach the person or persons at an appropriate time (timing is everything, your message needs to be impactful so pick a good time to speak to them) and tell them how you feel. Many people’s personalities don’t often see wrong in what they are doing until its highlighted and often when it is, it’s kind of embarrassing for them. You are essentially highlighting a personality character flaw.
Failing this, approach their managers describing your problem as unbiasedly as possible to mediate.
If still unresolved, approach the CTO / CEO.
With each meeting, ensure you follow this up with an email to the party/parties to solidify your message. It also gives you proof and is good for record-keeping.
Sometimes people fall out of line and need corrective disciplining. As a CTO, I encourage office banter to happen as it’s a means of team bonding and builds character, but not at the expense of professionalism. Once a boundary has been crossed, this is a red flag for me and action needs to be taken.
Don’t be afraid to speak up because only through communication can things be resolved. There is a reason why you are writing this message else you would have resigned already. Probably you are happy with your work, the projects you are getting and perhaps even have some colleagues there you view as friends. Knowing this, the advice I have given here is the correct process to follow to reach results.
If after time the problem remains unresolved, then it’s time to consider moving along. There is nothing worst then being in a firm where the cultural fit does not match with you. If management allows this behavior to occur then they are to blame, not you! In this case, they are not a good fit for you. A safe and happy working environment where you can thrive and spread your wings is essential personal growth and career development. Once it reaches this point, you would be wise to let the CTO/CEO know your reason for your resignation. Remember, they are learning too.
I hope my advice helps you become the person you want to be. Don’t be influenced by negative thoughts where doubt creeps in but rather continue in your pursuit of happiness and fulfillment. Life is short, follow your path. It will lead to something wonderful.
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Dear Desire’
I am a CTO for an international software company. I have taken time out of my schedule to write this for you as it is something I have experienced time and time again and is a concern for me.
I am double your age and manage teams of engineers and designers. Some have Ph.D.’s others have no degrees. Some have education and others are self-thought. I understand the value of people within our organization. Without knowing both sides of this story, what you are describing appears to be a cultural fit issue. My reason for saying this is that if it were to do with your hard-skills, and your work was not up to scratch, they would have let you know by now.
Being young, your soft-skills are still developing so my best advice is to communicate this with them effectively. It’s really a three-step process depending on the organizational structure.
Approach the person or persons at an appropriate time (timing is everything, your message needs to be impactful so pick a good time to speak to them) and tell them how you feel. Many people’s personalities don’t often see wrong in what they are doing until its highlighted and often when it is, it’s kind of embarrassing for them. You are essentially highlighting a personality character flaw.
Failing this, approach their managers describing your problem as unbiasedly as possible to mediate.
If still unresolved, approach the CTO / CEO.
With each meeting, ensure you follow this up with an email to the party/parties to solidify your message. It also gives you proof and is good for record-keeping.
Sometimes people fall out of line and need corrective disciplining. As a CTO, I encourage office banter to happen as it’s a means of team bonding and builds character, but not at the expense of professionalism. Once a boundary has been crossed, this is a red flag for me and action needs to be taken.
Don’t be afraid to speak up because only through communication can things be resolved. There is a reason why you are writing this message else you would have resigned already. Probably you are happy with your work, the projects you are getting and perhaps even have some colleagues there you view as friends. Knowing this, the advice I have given here is the correct process to follow to reach results.
If after time the problem remains unresolved, then it’s time to consider moving along. There is nothing worst then being in a firm where the cultural fit does not match with you. If management allows this behavior to occur then they are to blame, not you! In this case, they are not a good fit for you. A safe and happy working environment where you can thrive and spread your wings is essential personal growth and career development. Once it reaches this point, you would be wise to let the CTO/CEO know your reason for your resignation. Remember, they are learning too.
I hope my advice helps you become the person you want to be. Don’t be influenced by negative thoughts where doubt creeps in but rather continue in your pursuit of happiness and fulfillment. Life is short, follow your path. It will lead to something wonderful.