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Let's talk about impostor syndrome ๐Ÿ˜ง

technoglot profile image Amelia Vieira Rosado ใƒปUpdated on ใƒป7 min read

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Hello folks! Welcome back ๐Ÿ‘‹๐Ÿป I trust you are doing well.

As you probably figured from the title, today I'd like to talk about impostor syndrome. I know what you're thinking: "Ah, another one of these posts... Bye ๐Ÿ™„". Just hear me out before you leave. I promise I won't make it too long (at least not 30 minutes long).

๐Ÿšจ DISCLAIMER #1: Be warned; this one sounds like a rant. Not suitable for the faint at heart. Proceed at your own risk or hit the back button before you regret it.

Brief intro โœ๐Ÿป

I've been wanting to write about this topic for a while now, but I just couldn't find the words to approach this topic. After a conversation with @theowlsden , I finally got the clarity I need it, and here I am, finally writing about it.

Let's settle this topic once and for all, shall we?

What is impostor syndrome? ๐Ÿค”

So sorry to reiterate this point here, but I need a baseline. For those unfamiliar with the term, here's a definition I found on Wikipedia:

Impostor syndrome is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their skills, talents or accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud". Despite external evidence of their competence, those experiencing this phenomenon remain convinced that they are frauds, and do not deserve all they have achieved.

As you can see from the definition above, impostor syndrome is entirely mental and often fictitious. I personally believe that those experiencing it or those who have experienced it, are to blame for feeling this way (this includes me too). What I mean by this is that we effectively engage in self-sabotaging activities, therefore increasing the likelihood of falling victim to impostor syndrome. We literally bring this upon ourselves with our actions.

impostor: me

Now, let me be very clear about one thing: impostor syndrome !== self-doubt! I've heard and seen some folks say that impostor syndrome is not real and that it is just a fancy term used to refer to self-doubt. I don't agree in the least with such statement. In fact, I am under the impression that the folks making such statement, have not experienced impostor syndrome. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, but I personally believe that self-doubt is merely a part of what makes up impostor syndrome as a whole.

In the next sections, I'll be sharing with you what I believe are key contributors to impostor syndrome.

๐Ÿšจ DISCLAIMER #2: The opinions and thoughts expressed below are my own. If you are struggling with mental health issues, please consider seeking help from a professional. This blog is not intended to serve as medical advice. Proceed at your own discretion.

1๏ธโƒฃ Unrealistic expectations ๐Ÿ’ญ

Expectations, we all have them, yet they are not inherently bad in nature. Having expectations is good to some extent, so long they are realistic. Unrealistic expectations are the key ingredient for disappointment and do far more harm than good.

Say you just landed a great job and things are going great. However, on one good day, your inner impostor rises and takes control.
I'm the captain now

Suddenly you expect yourself to know everything, to not have to ask anyone for help, to seem and be competent at all times. All you do is create expectations for yourself. You think (and want to believe) that these expectations are being forced on you by others, when in reality, it's all your doing. You played yourself! You set such unattainable expectations for yourself and consequently ended up getting disappointed the moment you couldn't meet them.

Here's my two cents: accept that you will never know it all. Accept that it is okay to ask for help, to not have the answer to all questions. Be okay with admitting that you don't know, with saying: "I'm stuck, I need help". There is nothing wrong with acknowledging your knowledge and/or skill gaps. You are here to learn. What you don't know today, you'll know someday not too far in the future. So, go easy on the expectations and set them straight, for good!

2๏ธโƒฃ Comparing yourself to others ๐Ÿ˜ข

You know the drill: you hop on your social media of choice and scroll through your feed until you are almost brain dead. Awesome! While scrolling through your feed, you see all these awesome folks you look up to. You can't help but think one (or all) of the following:

  • "Oh, X is so cool! I wish I could be like them..."
  • "Man, how I wish I had that many followers..."
  • "Damn, I'd love to work for Y; that's my dream company! X is so lucky to be working there... I hope I can make it to Y one day..."

GET YOUR ACT TOGETHER, WILL YOU?! ๐Ÿ˜ก Nothing infuriates me more than to see and hear people lament about how unsuccessful they are when COMPARED to others. Gee, focus on your damn self! Stop looking left and right for people to measure yourself up to! Nothing wrong with admiring someone, but never EVER compare yourself to them. You are two different people, with different qualities (strengths, weaknesses, skills etc.) and different life circumstances. Feeling sorry for yourself will get you NO WHERE.

Let that sink in for a bit, okay? And don't blame social media for how YOU feel when using it. Sure, social media is pretty evilly engineered, but YOU choose how much time you spend on it and doing what. If it makes you feel so bad about yourself, why are you spending so much time on it? Are you a masochist by any chance?

Focus on your journey and your journey alone. Notice how I say journey here. It's not a race by any means. It's not about how fast you go and how famous you get. Slow but steady is fine. Progress is progress. Stop getting distracted by other people's success and focus on YOURSELF.

nice quote

Fun fact: most people don't share their failure stories on the net. They typically feed their audience the feel-good and badass content. You choose if you want to keep indulging and getting deluded by these one-sided fables. ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ

3๏ธโƒฃ Not accepting that you are a beginner ๐Ÿ˜•

This one is closely related to setting unrealistic expectations. I see many skip the beginner phase. They never state a role they held with the word junior on their resume (they typically omit the word junior altogether). Why would they, right? Everyone's a senior dev straight out of college/uni/bootcamp, RIGHT? Obviously not! ๐Ÿ™„

By ignoring your humble beginnings, you don't help yourself. You just corner yourself further and make the encounter with your inner impostor more inevitable (just like Thanos ๐Ÿ˜‰). At this point, you are already falling in the vicious circle that is setting unrealistic expectations. By not acknowledging where you are currently standing in your career you'll wind up expecting yourself to be at a level much higher than the one you are currently on. To top it all, you'll get in the way of your growth, both personal and professional.

To all the newbies (or otherwise) out there: come to terms with the fact that you are just getting started. Stop trying to be a freaking senior dev since day one. Embrace the journey, welcome the struggle. Failing to accept where you are currently standing in your career will only get in your way. You have been warned...

4๏ธโƒฃ You don't give yourself enough credit ๐Ÿ…

You accomplish something? You don't acknowledge it. You hit a milestone? You don't celebrate that win. People compliment your work? You invalidate their compliment. See? I was right. All you do is self-sabotage! You get in your own way over and over and over again. Yet somehow, you hope you'll feel better about yourself by engaging in these destructive behaviors. Truly delusional...

If all you do is keep yourself small, how do you expect to grow? Take pride in what you do and have accomplished and continue building on top of it. Change your mindset (especially how you see yourself and think about yourself) and notice how everything around you starts changing too.

My message here is clear: GIVE ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป YOURSELF ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป MORE ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป CREDIT ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป. Take that compliment. Celebrate that win. Know that what you have done up until now has value, no matter how small an achievement it is.

old ways won't open new doors

The end ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿป

Hooray, you made it this far down! ๐ŸŽ‰ Thanks for tuning in for this one. Smash that ๐Ÿ’– or ๐Ÿฆ„ if you believe this should have been a TEDx speech. Just kidding!

I truly hope that you could take away something from this rant (if not you may want to read this again ๐Ÿคญ). I'd love to hear your thoughts on this topic, so don't hesitate to drop them below. Let's keep it civil and constructive, shall we?

Now, say your goodbyes to your inner impostor!

hasta la vista, baby

Take care and see you next time! ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป

Sources
Good ol' Wikipedia
A superb infographic on Impostor Syndrome
The source of the infographic
Tips on how to cope with Impostor Syndrome
Another good resource




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Cooper Riehl

Great post as always, Amelia! This one was particularly spicy, but I'm totally here for it, and I'm happy to throw in my own spicy opinions ๐Ÿ˜‰

Everyone is different, so I can only speak to my own experience. For me, my imposter syndrome was/is strongly tied to my struggles with undiagnosed ADHD and anxiety/panic disorder.

You made some really good suggestions in your post - "get off social media", "stop comparing yourself to others", "acknowledge that you're still a beginner", etc. These are the exact same things I have told myself time and time again, in the past. Yet it always felt impossible to follow my own advice, and telling myself these things actually ended up making me feel worse!

I would beat myself up because these should've been simple pieces of advice to follow, but my anxiety wouldn't let me accept them. On top of that, my ADHD would make it hard to focus on my projects, which led to even more anxiety, which then distracted me from my projects even more - a vicious cycle.

I've recently been speaking to some mental health professionals, and am finally being properly treated for these disorders. A combination of medication and therapy has made a WORLD of difference, and I'm finally beginning to feel like the best version of myself!

I think your advice in this article is spot on. Some people who struggle with poor mental health may have trouble following your advice, and may need to focus on their underlying conditions first - that's okay. Everyone is different, and everyone faces different challenges. In the end, we all just have to figure out what works best for us.

Thank you for sharing :)

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

Hey @cariehl ! Thank you so much for taking the time to write such a thorough comment! ๐Ÿ™‡๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ Now, let me get back at some of your points.

This one was particularly spicy, but I'm totally here for it, and I'm happy to throw in my own spicy opinions ๐Ÿ˜‰

I must admit that I tend to speak from an insensitive place, though I'm glad you took no offense to anything I wrote. (Or so I hope!) Frankly said, I mean no harm with my stingy words and tough love.

For me, my imposter syndrome was/is strongly tied to my struggles with undiagnosed ADHD and anxiety/panic disorder.

I'm so sorry to hear that! ๐Ÿ˜ข And I fully acknowledge that these wrong-doers don't make it easy to overcome impostor syndrome.

I've recently been speaking to some mental health professionals, and am finally being properly treated for these disorders. A combination of medication and therapy has made a WORLD of difference, and I'm finally beginning to feel like the best version of myself!

I'm so glad to see things are working out well for you! ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’– I wish you the best in your journey towards recovery!

I think your advice in this article is spot on. Some people who struggle with poor mental health may have trouble following your advice, and may need to focus on their underlying conditions first - that's okay.

Hence the multiple disclaimers. I know damn well that we are all fighting different demons, so my "advice" may definitely be unhelpful to most. I'm just a mere mortal and I am well aware that there's no one-size-fits-all solution to this issue. Despite this, I hope that some may be able to fight their way out of this mental trap and finally find happiness.

Once again, thank you for sharing your thoughts and your experience with us! I appreciate it more than you can imagine! ๐Ÿ™‡๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ

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Cooper Riehl

No offense taken at all! Your articles wouldn't be the same without that spicy tone, and like you said, you included multiple disclaimers - I think you have the perfect level of self-awareness while still expressing your voice ๐Ÿ˜Š

Thanks for responding, and I look forward to your next article!

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

You're too kind @cariehl ! ๐Ÿ˜Š Thank you for reading these spicy posts, haha! ๐Ÿ˜‚

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Shaquil Maria

Some facts are being said there!๐Ÿ˜‚ People might get triggered.

And don't blame social media for how YOU feel when using it.

Say it louder for the people in the back! As soon as you feel that you only get bombarded with success stories and they make you feel bad, do yourself a favor and get off for some time.

Focus on your journey and your journey alone.

Indeed. And try to make it what you like it to be, don't be looking at other people's lives and try to make your journey identical.

Great content as always! Keep it up๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

People might get triggered.

LOL, that'd be their problem, not mine. ๐Ÿ˜‰ But hey, I warned 'em.

As soon as you feel that you only get bombarded with success stories and they make you feel bad, do yourself a favor and get off for some time.

Best advice one can give tbh ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿป

don't be looking at other people's lives and try to make your journey identical.

10 billion points to you! (Shameless Dr Stone reference)

Great content as always! Keep it up๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช

Thanks for dropping by as usual! ๐Ÿ™‡๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ

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Naseki

Wow, slapping some hot tea this time! โ˜•๐Ÿ”ฅ

I find impostor syndrome one of the most interesting topics to read from devs. It makes you realise just how universal the experience is. It's nice to see you're offering solid advice here! ๐Ÿ˜

My favourite one is the social media issue. It's such a widespread problem that the majority of people I see are suffering from it in one way or another. Even if it's not mindlessly going through Instagram, it's looking up to those "code gurus" on Youtube. Those people always seem to brag about get the next great opportunity after the other while having a successful career as a Youtuber at the same time. Yes, I am absolutely salty about these people! (Of course, there are also some great people)

To add a little to it, as someone who suffers from it as well, I've found that helping others (either actively or through blogging) helps a ton with battling it. Mentoring even moreso. It makes you realise that you're not as much of a fraud as you think you are. You bombard yourself with real-life examples after all.

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

It makes you realise just how universal the experience is. It's nice to see you're offering solid advice here! ๐Ÿ˜

Haha, at least I tried! ๐Ÿ˜…

Yes, I am absolutely salty about these people!

And rightfully so! How can some people have such perfect and rose-colored lives? Oh, they are hiding stuff, that's why! So many put on these tough acts like: "Oh look at me I'm so successful", yet they hardly ever (not to say never) share their failure stories. If all you do is share one side of the story, you are basically misleading your followers. That's what annoys me about some "influencers" the most.

It makes you realise that you're not as much of a fraud as you think you are. You bombard yourself with real-life examples after all.

I agree with the points raised here. We just have to acknowledge our work more and this can be accomplished thorough mentoring and helping others as you stated. You literally have to constantly prove your inner impostor wrong until it finally shuts the fudge up!

Thanks for sharing your thoughts as usual @naseki ! I appreciate it! ๐Ÿ™‡๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ

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orelzion

I really liked this post, as someone who had struggled with imposter syndrome for years, I felt that you really express well the feelings and thoughts behind it and that you give great suggestions to overcome it.
I have a blog that I write in Hebrew for beginner Android developers, and I would LOVE to translate your post and post it in my blog (with all the credits and referring to the original post of course). Would that be possible?

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

Glad to hear you liked this ranty post ๐Ÿ˜‚

I would LOVE to translate your post and post it in my blog. Would that be possible?

ABSOLUTELY! ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿป Fine by me ๐Ÿ˜ Hope your audience finds value in it too!

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orelzion

Thank you so much!
Here's my translated post
androidoss.vercel.app/post/imposter/

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

That was fast! ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป

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Karen Langan

Helpful post, Amelia! I am almost as new to not only this forum but also developing as anyone. Imposter syndrome is on my mind every step of the way as I consider changing careers from teaching (for over 2 decades) to coding. I do it as a hobby and literally have only taught it at the elementary level. So the idea of competing in the job market in the future with the millions of people like yourself who are young but have so much more experience... well let's just say I've been thinking about doing this for a few years now and always talk myself out of it. How could I compete?

But recently I saw Amazon advertising for a cloud administrator with education background. Who will they likely hire? Someone with minimal education background because very few teachers move into the coding sector. So maybe that could be my niche. Thanks again for posting this and helping me realize loads of people go through this as they first start out.

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

How could I compete?

I'd suggest you ask yourself the following question instead:
What can I bring to the tech space to make it better? In that way you stop hurting yourself thinking that you need to have top notch skills and that you have to be ahead of others in order to be employable.

So maybe that could be my niche.

Yes, that could indeed be it! Try to use what you know from your education background and use that to make yourself stand out. A unique skill set can take you much further than you imagine. Besides, technical skills are great and all, but companies are paying more and more attention to soft skills in tech.

So rest assured, there is a place for you here! And in case there is no place (which is highly unlikely), why not create it? ๐Ÿ˜‰

Thank you so much for dropping by and sharing your thoughts! ๐Ÿ˜Š

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Sandra Spanik

I normally donโ€™t leave negative comments, but mental health is an issue close to my heart, as someone who used to work in the industry. So I just want to say that if you are a reader who feels worse off after reading this article - youโ€™re not alone. The article is written with little regard to and empathy for neuroatypical people or the whopping one third of us who struggle with mental ill health. Iโ€™m sure this was not the authorโ€™s intent.

Having said this, I am glad many people are finding it useful. Weโ€™re all different, and I really appreciate diverse opinions, even if I donโ€™t always agree. I do appreciate this content and find the fact that Iโ€™m the first (or even only one!) to point above out a fascinating testament to the breadth of the human experience :)

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

I normally donโ€™t leave negative comments

Express yourself freely. I'm not one to go around censoring people.

but mental health is an issue close to my heart,

I'd like to make clear that I have struggled with mental health issues, surely not on the clinical level, but I've struggled and am still struggling for some part. In the end I'm a mere mortal and I feel pain too. It was absolutely not my intention to hurt anybody. I knew this baby (this post) was not gonna land well with everyone. Despite this, I published the blog post anyway. I made sure to add various disclaimers, since I know some people will not be able to handle the heat of my words. I know, I can be very insensitive. I'm certainly not the most emotionally intelligent or empathetic person on the planet. It's something that I have to work on daily and I try my best to keep that at bay, especially online.

With that being said, I choose to get my message across in an "ardent" manner. Not to hurt anyone's feelings, but to hopefully give them that "wake up call". Surely that will not work for everyone. Hence why I also said: "reach out to a professional if you are struggling".

This post was by no means ill-intended, nor was it meant to serve as professional help whatsoever. I really tried to make that clear in the blog. Not sure if that helped at all, to be honest.

Thanks for your comment. I welcome views and perspectives other than my own and will take your remarks into consideration. Cheers.

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Sandra Spanik

Wow, I love your honesty, and the fact youโ€™ve made this a space where itโ€™s totally okay to disagree without things getting unpleasant - thatโ€™s an internet rarity ๐Ÿ˜

I see where youโ€™re coming from, and I can tell from the disclaimers as well as your other comments here that you have nothing but good intentions, of course. Iโ€™m not sure itโ€™s about โ€œbeing able to handle the heat of your wordsโ€, as much as it is about agreeing with the implications of your words. Your tone is harsh, but thatโ€™s not the issue - in fact, the tone, the heat, makes for an engaging read.

Itโ€™s the fact that you portray all this as something people can simply choose to opt out of, rather than relatively fixed attributes of oneโ€™s neural pathways. It can take years to deconstruct thinking/behaviour, and making it seem like you can just choose to feel differently ignores that fact, so I worried some might read this and feel guilt or shame for finding this trickier than you make it seem. In my experience, โ€œcarrotโ€ works better than โ€œstickโ€ for those who are struggling, and statements like โ€œGET YOUR ACT TOGETHER, WILL YOU?! ๐Ÿ˜กโ€œ serve only as guilt-amplifiers.

But anyways, it sounds like youโ€™re aware of the insensitivity of your words anyways and simply wrote this article for a different target audience. Where you definitely hit the spot. ๐ŸŽฏ

Looking forward to reading more from you!

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peerreynders

Not accepting that you are a beginner

It's a fallacy that Imposter Syndrome is a beginner phenomenon. There is the notion "at first we're all beginners" but it runs deeper than that. If anything, beginner's can often go in the opposite direction - the expert beginner.

Inverted knowledge triangle

From Brian Holt - Having Empathy while Teaching Programming

The above graphic is an inverted triangle. Beginner's "what you know" covers an extremely small area at the tip with a relatively small "what you know you don't know" area on top of it. So beginners often won't have a sense of the full scope of the "what you dont't know you don't know" area - i.e. everything seems to be within reach.

As learning progresses "what you know" expands - but so does "what you know you don't know" and with that an intuition of the vastness of the "what you don't know you don't know" area emerges. This is what

The more I learn, the more I realize how much I don't know.

is all about. But is can lead to the situation where:

  • Less experienced devs overestimate their knowledge
  • More experienced devs feel dumb alot

So from that perspective a little impostor syndrome can be helpful for pushing oneself out of the expert beginner zone - as long as it doesn't get out of hand. However with that comes the constant sense that there could be something out there in "what you don't know you don't know" land that could help you make more informed decisions than what your current, restricted "what you know" allows.


Direction is much more important than speed. Many are going nowhere fast.

Opportunity cost is real but how does that help with choosing a direction? Sometimes it can be obvious where forging ahead across the "what you know you don't know" boundary can bring short term benefit - but that doesn't necessarily align with the direction needed for a chosen long term goal. So one way or another some realignment is necessary to optimize meaningful progress. But alignment isn't absolute as progress reveals new information which may invalidate earlier assumptions, necessitating re-evaluation of long term goals and adjustment of direction. So the actual path is rarely a straight line. (See also Plan, Do, Check, Act).

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Aravind Ramalingam

Thanks for the great post!

Totally agree on not celebrating the milestone part. I think most people donโ€™t celebrate the milestone because they forget to set the next milestone beforehand and they sort of go right past it.

Milestone must be defined by what you can do i.e Finishing the project, Acquiring new skills, Solving the pain point and not the outcome of these activities like fatter paycheck, more followers etc.

Celebrating the milestone can give you a sense of accomplishment and keep you motivated. Looking at the bigger picture is important but when you celebrate the small wins along the way, it makes easier to reach finish line.

Hope this helps!

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

Thanks for sharing your thoughts @6aravind ! Glad you enjoyed this post! ๐Ÿ˜Š

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Karl

Thanks for the post. Im starting a new job next week after one year searching for it after graduation. Now Im here thinking about if Im good enough to achieve the goals that are waiting for me. I cant hide it ... sometimes Im just scared as one day my boss and colleagues are gonna say: "Why did we hire this guy again?" lol
Its real guys! Anyway I hope everything is gonna be fine. I will try to do my best!

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erica (she/her)

These are some hot takes, but I can't argue with any of them! I agree that social media is a HUGE part of it. It's so easy to beat yourself up seeing other's successes and high numbers. I've found it super helpful to trim my 'following' lists to people that truly inspire me and don't give me that sinking feeling when I see their posts. Removing influencer-types and following more people in similar boats as me helped a lot.

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

I've found it super helpful to trim my 'following' lists to people that truly inspire me and don't give me that sinking feeling when I see their posts.

Oh my goodness, THIS! Literally THIS right here! More people need to become familiar with this practice. Groom that following list! Follow those that make you feel uplifted instead of those that make you feel like trash.

Removing influencer-types and following more people in similar boats as me helped a lot.

Absolutely! This should be a universal piece of advice! ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿป Spot on, seriously.

Thanks so much for adding to the conversation! ๐Ÿ™‡๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ

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Pandita

aaah you know what's been helping me a bit, a brag document template created by Julia Evans (she's pretty cool!) jvns.ca/blog/brag-documents/ it's truly helpful for self-reflection (and in a positive light too!), which I think is something I need to do more often hahaha

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

Thanks for sharing! Looks quite helpful at first glance!

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Alex

Thanks for the Post Amelia! As a Developer who is currently going through this while feeling alone (only developer at company, working in current software, building custom software, and developing new website) it's rough!

I know the feeling of either thinking you aren't worth the job, or even getting unmotivated due to all the tasks and thinking the stress level of this alone with what you're being paid for the job doesn't make sense! lol

Anyways, thanks again!

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Nefomemes

What if I have a crewmate syndrome?

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

LOL, how would you describe that?

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Nefomemes

Umm, I dunno.

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Yngve

Ever had asked someone about something you struggle with and they answer you in a heartbeat? You've most likely done that to someone else without thinking about it because you know you had a lot of trial to figure it out, just as they did.

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

I'm not sure I understand. Can you elaborate?

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ov1n

This helped and thanks ๐Ÿคฉ

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

Glad you found it helpful @ov1n ! ๐Ÿ˜Š

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Marouane

For me when I start feeling that way, I stop working on the problem and try to find simpler tasks to do to make me feel better and help get out from that state and it really works.

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

Indeed! Sometimes the key is to simply take a step back. Thanks for sharing ๐Ÿ˜

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atulit023

You know the drill: you hop on your social media of choice and scroll through your feed until you are almost brain dead.

I thought I'm the only one.

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

I think we're all guilty of this ๐Ÿ˜… Some more than others

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Kasey Wahl

It's refreshing to read some literature on dev.to about the human side of tech. What a timely and thoughtful read!

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

Glad it appealed to you! ๐Ÿ˜

literature on dev.to about the human side of tech

I figured this deserved more attention, hence here I am, ranting to the world! ๐Ÿ˜‚

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Usaid

I really needed to read this, thanks for such an awesome post!

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

Glad to see you found it helpful, Usaid! ๐Ÿ˜

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Rushan S J

Are you an Among Us developer ? ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿคฃ

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

Trust me, if I were, the game would be better than it currently is!

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Vusi

Thank you for this post.. I really think I needed to hear all of that๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ‘

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Corey Schaf

Excellent post! #2 is my biggest culprit. Its important to not compare yourself to where people are today, but to compare yourself to where you were yesterday.

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

Glad you found this valuable Corey! ๐Ÿ˜Š

but to compare yourself to where you were yesterday.

It takes time for most of us to come to this realization though!

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! ๐Ÿ™‡๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ

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vinod

This post forced me to analyze my thought process regarding my career again.

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

Glad to see it served as food for thought ๐Ÿ˜Š

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Atibhi Agrawal

This is a lovely post ! โค๏ธ Thanks for sharing with me. We all got this !

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

This is a lovely post !

Glad you found it helpful! ๐Ÿ˜… Thanks for dropping by and checking it out ๐Ÿ™‡๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ

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Danilo Desole • Edited

I'm affected constantly by this syndrome, I'm working on it but is not so easy :( I can understand the frustration and the not-wellbeing. Great post though!

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

Nothing's easy in this life. Fight impostors syndrome little by little. If all else fails, seek professional help.

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

I'd appreciate it if you added to the conversation and shared your thoughts in the comments instead of blatantly promoting your posts. I bet their content is good, but at least say something about what I wrote here. ๐Ÿ˜’

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Amelia Vieira Rosado Author

You are shameless, aren't you?

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