So I have kept a few rules to maintain that balance.
I only work on stuff I love in my after-work hours. So it's a hobby more than 'work'.
I keep a pretty firm reasonable bed time.
My husband & I have our weekly evenings divided between working solo on side projects, chores & R&R together. So we are getting a good balance.
That sounds like a great set of rules. Is the stuff you love ever related to your career or do you purposefullly draw a hard line in the sand?
Also, the concept of you and your husband have dedicated nights both together and and solo is brilliant. You guys sound a great team. :)
I write code both as a career & a hobby... but in the evenings I try to stick to fun, experimental, no-pressure & learning type projects, rather than client work. It's a nice change of pace.
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