Hi Lewis,
First off you are not alone. A lot of people go through this. I myself have dealt with similar issues and still deal with these issues in different ways.
There are a lot of different ways to deal with this, but the secret is to find what works for you. My approach has been to study these things and find personal development books, seminars, coaches, etc, and test out the strategies for a month or two to see what works and what doesn't.
I'd recommend finding a mentor or coach. This can be a little tricky as there is a lot of subtle difference between the two and everyone has different approaches. The best thing is to find someone that tells a similar story to yours and ask them questions. I also have found the better coaches are those that have some experience in therapy whether it be in a traditional form, CBT, or some of the more modern approaches like RTI or NLP.
One of the biggest changes in my was discovering and practicing gratitude and acceptance. Gratitude helps with anxiety because it makes you present and happy about the things in our life now. This makes what could happen in the future seem unimportant.
Acceptance is the practice of being okay with where you are now and what you are feeling. If you are feeling anxious or forgetful in a moment that is okay. It's part of life, everyone feels this way, soon it will pass and you won't feel this way and that moment won't really matter.
This subject is very important to me and learning how to handle has been one of the biggest and best turning points in my life. If you have any questions or want to talk I'm happy to just reach out.
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Hi Lewis,
First off you are not alone. A lot of people go through this. I myself have dealt with similar issues and still deal with these issues in different ways.
There are a lot of different ways to deal with this, but the secret is to find what works for you. My approach has been to study these things and find personal development books, seminars, coaches, etc, and test out the strategies for a month or two to see what works and what doesn't.
I'd recommend finding a mentor or coach. This can be a little tricky as there is a lot of subtle difference between the two and everyone has different approaches. The best thing is to find someone that tells a similar story to yours and ask them questions. I also have found the better coaches are those that have some experience in therapy whether it be in a traditional form, CBT, or some of the more modern approaches like RTI or NLP.
One of the biggest changes in my was discovering and practicing gratitude and acceptance. Gratitude helps with anxiety because it makes you present and happy about the things in our life now. This makes what could happen in the future seem unimportant.
Acceptance is the practice of being okay with where you are now and what you are feeling. If you are feeling anxious or forgetful in a moment that is okay. It's part of life, everyone feels this way, soon it will pass and you won't feel this way and that moment won't really matter.
This subject is very important to me and learning how to handle has been one of the biggest and best turning points in my life. If you have any questions or want to talk I'm happy to just reach out.