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Nikola Brežnjak • Edited

Welcome Amine,

To get a mentor, you first need to know what you want to get from him/her. It's almost a chicken and an egg paradox. Is it just 'what to learn next' kind of guidance in technical aspects or are there also 'soft skills' aspects to it?

I'd say everyone needs both because, as Jim Rohn said, your level of success will rarely exceed your level of personal development because success is something you attract by the person you become.

So, when you sit down and think about what you want to do, you'll come up with a list of things. Unsurprisingly, a lot of the answers are just a Google search away. Then, when you've tried a few things, and are still at an impasse, then the mentor is going to be super valuable.

The beauty of struggling, and coming to a solution on your own is that you will never forget the experience (and blood, sweat, and tears 🙂). The mentor may give you a shortcut, but the hard work still remains on your plate. I recommend the book Mindset (see here for a bunch of other ones:

And, I acknowledge the fact that this may be too new-agey, or soft-skillsy (word alerts! 🙂) for some, so please proceed at your own pace.

As Shakil noted, you're experiencing an imposter syndrome. I actually argue it's a good thing (to a degree):

TL;DR is: keep on going, learning, building, failing, learning from failure, getting back up, and repeating the cycle. You'll come out as a better developer and person in the end, who will then (hopefully) help others on their journey.

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Amine Modni Author

Hello Nikola, thank you so much for talking time to read my post .
Actually what I need are exactly those shortcuts suggested from an experienced developer so I can know I'm on the right path.

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