I had been a NEET for almost a year after my graduation and just got my first ever job last month. So, I am not yet an expert at all. Neither do I have a capacity to give an advice to others. But let me share you something that hopefully can help you a little bit in valuing yourself.
This pandemic has become the main reason companies went bankrupt and thousands of people in my country lost their jobs. Even worse, I have heard such news that a five-year-old girl die for her parent couldn't afford a food during a lockdown. And many other heart-wrenching cases around here. Someone used to say, "You know, you are luckier than many people there. You still have your breakfast and breathe every day ..." That's true, but being a jobless person is another problem. It's hard for me to be grateful back then, but sometimes I need or even only pretend to be so, without anyone knowing. It taught me that luck cannot be bought.
I couldn't manage myself in a position to be proud of myself, especially when I had no job and even any routine that is beneficial to my career. Or even a routine that is only meant to spend a very long free time while pretending as busy people in front of my friends and family. Thereof, I was thinking of being the most useless person on the earth. But if I could take a break for a moment, I know that I'm not that bad. And I don't think everyone is. In reality, I was the only one who came up with this bad habit to judge myself in a negative manner. It is sometimes good for evaluating what I've done. But allowing myself to sink into guilt is a mistake in itself.
I have been working harder than anyone else in the class. Being the person with the second highest GPA and a cum laude means nothing. But what matter is that I have heard a couple of times friends of mine got their first job. LinkedIn knows better how to mess up with me. I wasn't jealous, in fact I felt happy for them. But at the same time, I felt sick. Why I have become such a useless person to date? Although not from my friends, I kept receiving some complaints in a public chat for job seeker. It's pretty much all about too much work or too little pay. Moreover, several times, I've found videos from strangers in my YouTube feed, they're talking about quitting their job at FAANG. What has happened actually? So, I realised that it isn't impossible for me once I got a job, I'll have no more problems left. It's not going to be happened. I never know what is best for me, so I will always remember every moment, no matter how difficult it was. Because there is always a lesson in every minute of life. And experience can make people wiser.
I have a your-like dedication for creating and developing portfolios for months. Unfortunately, I have repeatedly failed to maintain my motivation. Being alone without receiving any feedback from anyone is a worst deal. Something needs to change, like you've said. Do I have to change myself? Yes, of course. Whenever I face a problem, it tells me that something is wrong. Then I started to look for a feedback, despite being afraid.
Everyone have their own fear of something. I know the best what I'm struggling with, not other people. And I believe, it applies to everyone as well. But sometimes, it's not clear to me. It has never become a bad thing to ask for advice and help. People give advice based on their experiences. It doesn't always apply to my personal life. But what I got, exactly as someone has told me in public, is that ideas, solutions, and creativity arise from interacting with other people.
I have no idea how hard it is to you. But I encourage you, together, to do our best for what do we believe in, to face our own fears. If not to give a value to others, at least to ourselves.
Wow, quite a response. Though I can't profess to having nearly the same degree of academic success. It's quite possible that'll I'll do this for months, and never receive feedback. That's not my entire goal for doing this. I'm also doing this to stay sane, and that alone I think would make such an attempt worth it. I can absolutely fail, I know this, it's the way of things and I'd rather go down fighting.
Your mentioning of "failed to maintain my motivation" resonates with me. I've seen all kinds of these sort of "motivational" videos/images or whatever from the "harsh discipline" and the gentle "you can do it" attitudes. I've been finding that in reality what's needed is far more complex than they make it seem. For me, scheduling, "building" from just maintenance of life to doing actual work, knowing my own psychology, changing environments, trying to build habits, and so much more are far more effective.
Hopefully that makes sense, a problem which is complex and all-encompassing requiring a solution which is at least equally complex and all-encompassing seems to make sense to me. I can make like four major decisions and make myself work for two hours at most a day. As less than adequate as that is, I still believe that is something I can build off of, depression is a nasty pit to be in.
It looks like it'll be a long and winding road for me to find that entry point into professional work for me, but I'm not dead yet!
Thanks for your reply and good luck out there friend!
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I had been a NEET for almost a year after my graduation and just got my first ever job last month. So, I am not yet an expert at all. Neither do I have a capacity to give an advice to others. But let me share you something that hopefully can help you a little bit in valuing yourself.
This pandemic has become the main reason companies went bankrupt and thousands of people in my country lost their jobs. Even worse, I have heard such news that a five-year-old girl die for her parent couldn't afford a food during a lockdown. And many other heart-wrenching cases around here. Someone used to say, "You know, you are luckier than many people there. You still have your breakfast and breathe every day ..." That's true, but being a jobless person is another problem. It's hard for me to be grateful back then, but sometimes I need or even only pretend to be so, without anyone knowing. It taught me that luck cannot be bought.
I couldn't manage myself in a position to be proud of myself, especially when I had no job and even any routine that is beneficial to my career. Or even a routine that is only meant to spend a very long free time while pretending as busy people in front of my friends and family. Thereof, I was thinking of being the most useless person on the earth. But if I could take a break for a moment, I know that I'm not that bad. And I don't think everyone is. In reality, I was the only one who came up with this bad habit to judge myself in a negative manner. It is sometimes good for evaluating what I've done. But allowing myself to sink into guilt is a mistake in itself.
I have been working harder than anyone else in the class. Being the person with the second highest GPA and a cum laude means nothing. But what matter is that I have heard a couple of times friends of mine got their first job. LinkedIn knows better how to mess up with me. I wasn't jealous, in fact I felt happy for them. But at the same time, I felt sick. Why I have become such a useless person to date? Although not from my friends, I kept receiving some complaints in a public chat for job seeker. It's pretty much all about too much work or too little pay. Moreover, several times, I've found videos from strangers in my YouTube feed, they're talking about quitting their job at FAANG. What has happened actually? So, I realised that it isn't impossible for me once I got a job, I'll have no more problems left. It's not going to be happened. I never know what is best for me, so I will always remember every moment, no matter how difficult it was. Because there is always a lesson in every minute of life. And experience can make people wiser.
I have a your-like dedication for creating and developing portfolios for months. Unfortunately, I have repeatedly failed to maintain my motivation. Being alone without receiving any feedback from anyone is a worst deal. Something needs to change, like you've said. Do I have to change myself? Yes, of course. Whenever I face a problem, it tells me that something is wrong. Then I started to look for a feedback, despite being afraid.
Everyone have their own fear of something. I know the best what I'm struggling with, not other people. And I believe, it applies to everyone as well. But sometimes, it's not clear to me. It has never become a bad thing to ask for advice and help. People give advice based on their experiences. It doesn't always apply to my personal life. But what I got, exactly as someone has told me in public, is that ideas, solutions, and creativity arise from interacting with other people.
I have no idea how hard it is to you. But I encourage you, together, to do our best for what do we believe in, to face our own fears. If not to give a value to others, at least to ourselves.
Sorry for this long read. Have a good fight!
Wow, quite a response. Though I can't profess to having nearly the same degree of academic success. It's quite possible that'll I'll do this for months, and never receive feedback. That's not my entire goal for doing this. I'm also doing this to stay sane, and that alone I think would make such an attempt worth it. I can absolutely fail, I know this, it's the way of things and I'd rather go down fighting.
Your mentioning of "failed to maintain my motivation" resonates with me. I've seen all kinds of these sort of "motivational" videos/images or whatever from the "harsh discipline" and the gentle "you can do it" attitudes. I've been finding that in reality what's needed is far more complex than they make it seem. For me, scheduling, "building" from just maintenance of life to doing actual work, knowing my own psychology, changing environments, trying to build habits, and so much more are far more effective.
Hopefully that makes sense, a problem which is complex and all-encompassing requiring a solution which is at least equally complex and all-encompassing seems to make sense to me. I can make like four major decisions and make myself work for two hours at most a day. As less than adequate as that is, I still believe that is something I can build off of, depression is a nasty pit to be in.
It looks like it'll be a long and winding road for me to find that entry point into professional work for me, but I'm not dead yet!
Thanks for your reply and good luck out there friend!