re: what bothers you the most of being a programmer? VIEW POST

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The biggest thing that bothers me about being a programmer is that most people assume I'm not a programmer and the amount of shock I get when I tell people.

 
 

I'm curious, how come that bothers you? People have repeatedly been surprised that I'm a programmer (Apparently I dress more like an economics person xD) and I've never felt the slightest bit annoyed.

 

I think the issue is why they didn't think you could be a programmer. If it's because your attire or mannerisms don't match what they expect of a programmer, I could see how that might seem less offensive. But speaking as a woman, it can also signal sexism.

[...] it can also signal sexism

Okay, but my point is, I can't relate to how that can annoy somebody. People make assumptions about others all the time and sex is just one more dimension to that heuristic. None of those assumptions bother me much and I was wondering why other people treat that as such a serious issue.

Part of the issue is that it's not something you have control over. You are able to control the way you dress, the way you style your hair, your posture, and other mannerisms.

There's also a difference between "Oh, you dress nice for a programmer" and "Because of your sex I didn't think you'd be capable of {x}"

Hopefully this comes across correctly. If someone can help me word this better, it would be appreciated

I don’t think it has to do with how one dresses. If someone acts surprised for a woman being a programmer it’s probably a sexist matter.

If someone acts surprised for a woman being a programmer, it can be anything. If they are surprised specifically because she's a woman, then that's still not sexism; it's statistics. If they are surprised that any woman is able to be a programmer, then yeah, that would be sexism.

 
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