Haha thanks Eugene 🤣 - I probably had similar experiences to you in the beginning too - that's why early in my career I bounced between tech lead and individual contributor (IC) roles quite a bit. Eventually I got to be "ok" in the role.
It wasn't until later, when I was managing other tech leads that I had the opportunity to learn to do it better.
Learning from them and reflecting on my own experiences, my hypothesis is that it's very possible to do both and do it successfully. But that doesn't mean EVERYONE SHOULD by any means!!
Thanks for sharing that point of view though. Absolutely valid and I'm glad you found a role you're happy with!!
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