You may not realize what this question implies, but I'll try to take a stab at it.
To second-guess someone else's career moves, especially that of someone you don't know, can be pretty gross. It implies that you think she should have made a different choice, whether that's what you intended or not. But you don't know about her career goals the way she does — they're her goals. And she doesn't owe any of us an explanation for why she made a particular move.
When it comes to your own employment, you should always do what's best for you, not the company you work for. You can count on the company doing the same — they'll always operate in their own interests. In this case, it appears the best option for her was this specific move. She's been collaborating with them already for the past 2 years, so she had more insight into the company than any of us do from the outside and obviously has more insight into what she wants than anyone else.
Given the quantity of second-guessing responses that Vaidehi receives on a regular basis, it's probably wise to keep this sort of thing to yourself.
The intent of your post isn't what's important. It's more about how it comes across. It didn't come across as tongue-in-cheek.
I think if Vaidehi is offended by my post she is happy to tell me so and I'll apologize in kind.
Not only are you deflecting the responsibility of what to do about offense you caused onto her, but your assumption is also wrong. I've already pointed out that she receives ignorant comments frequently. Do you really think she responds to each one telling them their comment bothers her? Who has that kind of time? Also, if their intent was to bother her, why should she validate that?
It seems you have a lot to learn about the experiences of a whole lot of people on social platforms.
I am sorry I have offended you for possibly offending someone else on a social faux-pas which is the result of holding different ideologies that I may not be aware of.
I would ask that you apologize to me for calling me out publically instead of saving face by messaging me in private.
The post to which you are replying literally points out that intent isn’t important. Please read up on intent vs impact.
You're not the authority on what something "comes across" as.
I’ve known Vaidehi for 5 years. In that time, she and I have personally discussed these sorts of things from reply guys quite a few times. I have more than enough insight to have responded the way I did.
You may not realize what this question implies, but I'll try to take a stab at it.
To second-guess someone else's career moves, especially that of someone you don't know, can be pretty gross. It implies that you think she should have made a different choice, whether that's what you intended or not. But you don't know about her career goals the way she does — they're her goals. And she doesn't owe any of us an explanation for why she made a particular move.
When it comes to your own employment, you should always do what's best for you, not the company you work for. You can count on the company doing the same — they'll always operate in their own interests. In this case, it appears the best option for her was this specific move. She's been collaborating with them already for the past 2 years, so she had more insight into the company than any of us do from the outside and obviously has more insight into what she wants than anyone else.
Given the quantity of second-guessing responses that Vaidehi receives on a regular basis, it's probably wise to keep this sort of thing to yourself.
Yahuda Katz and Tilde from what I have seen on Twitter have been very supportive of Vaidehi. My post was tongue-in-cheek.
I'm from Canada and I am quick to apologize. I think if Vaidehi is offended by my post she is happy to tell me so and I'll apologize in kind. ✌
The intent of your post isn't what's important. It's more about how it comes across. It didn't come across as tongue-in-cheek.
Not only are you deflecting the responsibility of what to do about offense you caused onto her, but your assumption is also wrong. I've already pointed out that she receives ignorant comments frequently. Do you really think she responds to each one telling them their comment bothers her? Who has that kind of time? Also, if their intent was to bother her, why should she validate that?
It seems you have a lot to learn about the experiences of a whole lot of people on social platforms.
I am sorry I have offended you for possibly offending someone else on a social faux-pas which is the result of holding different ideologies that I may not be aware of.
I would ask that you apologize to me for calling me out publically instead of saving face by messaging me in private.
Jamie, please don't assume malice where there is none. You're not the authority on what something "comes across" as.
The post to which you are replying literally points out that intent isn’t important. Please read up on intent vs impact.
I’ve known Vaidehi for 5 years. In that time, she and I have personally discussed these sorts of things from reply guys quite a few times. I have more than enough insight to have responded the way I did.
I already said sorry Jamie, can you please stop.
That was a deflection, not an apology. Regardless, I wasn't addressing you.
Please stop, thank you.