That's a shame Desire. I think there is a lot to be learnt from that person's post. They may have phrased their words less carefully than they could have. But I don't think being addressed in that manner (whether aimed at you, or me) is "toxic" or overly harsh. I've certainly had far harsher language used against myself before ;-) ....and learnt some good lessons from it.
They made a good point about something called "intermediate syndrome". It is something that affects all people in every area of life; the point where you go from feeling like you know very little, to feeling like you know a lot. Where suddenly you brim with confidence and may start expecting from others, or making demands, that actually you aren't ready to make. It's at that point that some of life's biggest mistakes creep in (I am familiar with it from the aviation industry, as it is the point in a pilot's development well where they are most dangerous to themselves and others - thinking they are better than they really are).
You're very right, I don't know everything (or much at all even). So I will leave the discussion there, as we're clearly not finding it constructive.
However, I think it would really be good for you to come back to this and review it all in a few weeks, months, or even years time. You may or may not feel different in future and there is a lot of varied (and therefore usual) information in everyone's posts here.
You're right, I will come back, remember how ignored I was, how some men on the internet claimed to know more about me than myself, and then I'll be thankful that I found a place where I get the credit and respect that I deserve.
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I'm not going to answer anything but just one thing:
You were being supportive to someone who was openly toxic against me, and that's actually a violation of CoC.
Good day, sir.
That's a shame Desire. I think there is a lot to be learnt from that person's post. They may have phrased their words less carefully than they could have. But I don't think being addressed in that manner (whether aimed at you, or me) is "toxic" or overly harsh. I've certainly had far harsher language used against myself before ;-) ....and learnt some good lessons from it.
They made a good point about something called "intermediate syndrome". It is something that affects all people in every area of life; the point where you go from feeling like you know very little, to feeling like you know a lot. Where suddenly you brim with confidence and may start expecting from others, or making demands, that actually you aren't ready to make. It's at that point that some of life's biggest mistakes creep in (I am familiar with it from the aviation industry, as it is the point in a pilot's development well where they are most dangerous to themselves and others - thinking they are better than they really are).
You're talking too much knowing anything about my life, skills, work and actually anything.
I'll give you an advice: don't talk to others as if you know everything, you don't.
Good day.
You're very right, I don't know everything (or much at all even). So I will leave the discussion there, as we're clearly not finding it constructive.
However, I think it would really be good for you to come back to this and review it all in a few weeks, months, or even years time. You may or may not feel different in future and there is a lot of varied (and therefore usual) information in everyone's posts here.
You're right, I will come back, remember how ignored I was, how some men on the internet claimed to know more about me than myself, and then I'll be thankful that I found a place where I get the credit and respect that I deserve.