With all that, Jason, I just wanted to do a reminder that many people see 'provocative' what it's just a normal outfit so we just must be careful when we talk about 'sending messages with our clothes' because even if we don't mean to, we don't know other's standards to what it's provocative or not. By previous messages I think we both share the same definition for it, but again, not everyone...
That's why I was trying to get attention since an expression like 'seeking for a romantic partner' feels out of place. Maybe it's because the language barrier (I'm not native english speaker) but for me it is a very vulgar expression (if I try to fit it in my native language), but something more neutral like 'going to the club/in a date' sounds better to me.
Thank you for the time and patience to answer me.
And refering my first message besides those 2 statements, the overall article was very good and I'm proudly taking some of your tips.
"Seeking a romantic partner" is not actually vulgar in English; I'm deliberately being vague about orientation, dating methods, etc, lest someone else get insulted for not being included. "Going to the club/on a date" would leave out many other scenarios. Being as vague and general as possible.
I agree that some people have weird ideas about what is "provocative", but you'll notice I never even used that term in the article! Again...
Get noticed for your skills and ideas, not because your outfit would make Grandma Miller turn scarlet.
If your own culture would consider what you're wearing to be shockingly inappropriate, think twice. You can't cater to what everyone else thinks, but you can check yourself. (The reference to "Grandma Miller" is simply because grandmothers are often the ones who remind us of proper behavior in our own culture.)
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With all that, Jason, I just wanted to do a reminder that many people see 'provocative' what it's just a normal outfit so we just must be careful when we talk about 'sending messages with our clothes' because even if we don't mean to, we don't know other's standards to what it's provocative or not. By previous messages I think we both share the same definition for it, but again, not everyone...
That's why I was trying to get attention since an expression like 'seeking for a romantic partner' feels out of place. Maybe it's because the language barrier (I'm not native english speaker) but for me it is a very vulgar expression (if I try to fit it in my native language), but something more neutral like 'going to the club/in a date' sounds better to me.
Thank you for the time and patience to answer me.
And refering my first message besides those 2 statements, the overall article was very good and I'm proudly taking some of your tips.
Hi Desiré,
Glad we're on the same page.
"Seeking a romantic partner" is not actually vulgar in English; I'm deliberately being vague about orientation, dating methods, etc, lest someone else get insulted for not being included. "Going to the club/on a date" would leave out many other scenarios. Being as vague and general as possible.
I agree that some people have weird ideas about what is "provocative", but you'll notice I never even used that term in the article! Again...
If your own culture would consider what you're wearing to be shockingly inappropriate, think twice. You can't cater to what everyone else thinks, but you can check yourself. (The reference to "Grandma Miller" is simply because grandmothers are often the ones who remind us of proper behavior in our own culture.)