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Discussion on: Strive to be known for how you made people feel and not what you've done

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Elliott Miller

I respect your values but I think I am sort of the opposite of this.

Here me out though. In person, I think I am quite affable. In fact, a lot of people regularly tell me how much they like me and like working with me. I don't really know why. I guess I am nice, even though I am oft gloomy. And I am bubbly and pepper. I thank people often. I believe in our company's mission, and I am always trying to motivate people. Being warm and kind is a natural thing for me. Its kind of a default and trivially easy.

But being a good programmer and data scientist takes constant effort and training. This is a hard field to develop in. I have to solve mathematic, probabailisitic, algorithmic, and software engineering challenges. And do so within constraints and on a limited time frame. I often doubt myself and worry about not making a good enough product, but somehow do in the end.

I feel like, if I left, people would give me praise. But would they miss my actual work? Would they feel as though I actually contributed and important to the development of the company. I would like to think so but I am not confident about this. Ergo, its what I work on the most.

But you know das just me doe. I am quite envious of super confident developers that know their value. Maybe , if I get there, my feelings will change.

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dAVE Inden Author

Thanks for sharing! I think we are more aligned actually. I by no means consider myself a super confident developer. Even in the support work I was doing I still had to work hard to get results. I have the same experience with people generally liking to work with me or be around me without my having to try hard or really at all. It’s pretty easy for me to be nice and respectful to people. I worked really hard at lots of other more technical things. This is what got me thinking about this idea in the first place. When I was leaving I expected people to call out specific work I did, but instead I got notes on how I made people feel happy. At first, it was weird, but I eventually came to see it was a much bigger impact that I had made than any specific work I could have done.