The intent of your post isn't what's important. It's more about how it comes across. It didn't come across as tongue-in-cheek.
I think if Vaidehi is offended by my post she is happy to tell me so and I'll apologize in kind.
Not only are you deflecting the responsibility of what to do about offense you caused onto her, but your assumption is also wrong. I've already pointed out that she receives ignorant comments frequently. Do you really think she responds to each one telling them their comment bothers her? Who has that kind of time? Also, if their intent was to bother her, why should she validate that?
It seems you have a lot to learn about the experiences of a whole lot of people on social platforms.
I am sorry I have offended you for possibly offending someone else on a social faux-pas which is the result of holding different ideologies that I may not be aware of.
I would ask that you apologize to me for calling me out publically instead of saving face by messaging me in private.
The post to which you are replying literally points out that intent isn’t important. Please read up on intent vs impact.
You're not the authority on what something "comes across" as.
I’ve known Vaidehi for 5 years. In that time, she and I have personally discussed these sorts of things from reply guys quite a few times. I have more than enough insight to have responded the way I did.
Yahuda Katz and Tilde from what I have seen on Twitter have been very supportive of Vaidehi. My post was tongue-in-cheek.
I'm from Canada and I am quick to apologize. I think if Vaidehi is offended by my post she is happy to tell me so and I'll apologize in kind. ✌
The intent of your post isn't what's important. It's more about how it comes across. It didn't come across as tongue-in-cheek.
Not only are you deflecting the responsibility of what to do about offense you caused onto her, but your assumption is also wrong. I've already pointed out that she receives ignorant comments frequently. Do you really think she responds to each one telling them their comment bothers her? Who has that kind of time? Also, if their intent was to bother her, why should she validate that?
It seems you have a lot to learn about the experiences of a whole lot of people on social platforms.
I am sorry I have offended you for possibly offending someone else on a social faux-pas which is the result of holding different ideologies that I may not be aware of.
I would ask that you apologize to me for calling me out publically instead of saving face by messaging me in private.
Jamie, please don't assume malice where there is none. You're not the authority on what something "comes across" as.
The post to which you are replying literally points out that intent isn’t important. Please read up on intent vs impact.
I’ve known Vaidehi for 5 years. In that time, she and I have personally discussed these sorts of things from reply guys quite a few times. I have more than enough insight to have responded the way I did.
I already said sorry Jamie, can you please stop.
That was a deflection, not an apology. Regardless, I wasn't addressing you.
Please stop, thank you.