I thought it would be fitting to write a post about being a woman in tech on IWD. I am fairly new into the tech world but have always wanted a seat at the table. Since I've gotten pretty vocal on twitter with my journey I have had so much support from both men and women. However, there is a part of me that worries every time I post something especially when it's me admitting I don't know the answer or something like that. I worry that someone will message me saying I'm a failure and I should quit coding. 98% of the time that never happens but recently a man had messaged me telling me that women couldn't code and that I was so ugly no wonder I'm queer.
My sexual identity is MINE and my dating history is nobodies business nor does it relate to my coding abilities.
It really threw me for a loop. But not as much as hearing that this person thought a woman couldn't code. I have met such amazing women on Twitter and through my bootcamp that I'm in awe of how many badass women there are!
I'm not trying to say all men do this - because they don't - and some women like to put each other down, which I don't agree with. What I am saying is that the next time you see someone admitting they are having problems with code rather than to tell them that their entire gender can't code and comment on their appearance, why don't you say "how can I help?" or don't respond and move on. It takes zero seconds to be nice. Be the better person.