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re: Pair Programming is like sex. Done consensually and with the right partner, it can be a most beautiful and gratifying experience. Done under compul...

I'm sure OP's intent was not to offend anyone. It's an analogy—admittedly an exaggerated one, but it gets the point across well: Being forced to do something you didn't consent to. Obviously one situation is worse than the other; I don't think anyone here is implying otherwise.


I understand what an analogy is - and this doesn't get the point across well, unless you really think that rape is as incidental and impactful as a... workplace organisation issue. Which it isn't.

There's a really toxic culture prevalent in tech and usually this site manages to avoid it. It's disappointing to see it cropping up here in an otherwise interesting article. You wouldn't think you'd have to tell men to not compare a programming practice to literal sexual abuse, but here we are.

I can see both sides of it, actually.

On the one hand, you could have a reader who experienced rape and sees it being compared to something much, much less atrocious, walking away disgusted. On the other hand, I think most readers will understand that the analogy was meant to be a lighthearted joke—one that doesn't intend to trivialize rape or cause offense, even if it does end up doing so.

I can't really speak for OP, but I think he deserves the benefit of the doubt here.

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